(Closed) Spinoff: How long before you said I love you?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: how long were you together before you said I love you?

    less than 1 month

    1-3 months

    4-6 months

    7-10 months

    11-13 months

    13-16 months

    17+ months

  • Post # 32
    11231 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It took me about three seconds. It took him 1.5 years. Unfortunately, we started dating after breaking off our respective long-term (shitty) relationships. I had been over mine long before I broke up with him, but he didn’t start trying to get over his until after they’d broken up (and he helped her move an hour away /eyeroll). Probably shouldn’t have started dating so soon after, but we didn’t want to lose one another.

    Post # 33
    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I voted 1-3 months, but tbh.. I can’t really remember. We have been dating 10 years, and we started in high school.  17 and in love I’m sure.  This wasn’t a huge memory for me, so I’m sure I just said it.  He was my first (and only) bf, so I probably used it soon, not really thinking about it.  Fortunately it worked out!


    Post # 34
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think it was about 2 months. I could tell something was bothering him and I coaxed it out of him. He thought it was too soon to say it but wanted to. It wasn’t too soon!

    Post # 35
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We said it at about six months.

    Post # 36
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We were in love long before we both admitted it. It was about 6 months. 

    Post # 37
    10361 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I can’t believe 8% of people voted over a year. We were engaged at a year!

    Post # 38
    463 posts
    Helper bee

    We were friends first, so our relationship actually started with me confessing that I loved him! He said it back the same day ๐Ÿ™‚ So depending on how you slice it, either on day 1 or after 8 months (how long we’d known each other at the time).

    Post # 39
    1848 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    About a month. He wanted to say it on our 4th date, or around that!

    Post # 40
    44 posts
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I knew after 3 weeks and his birthday was another week away and was going to tell him on his birthday but wasn’t even able to wait that long! When you know, you know, and you want to scream it from the mountain tops!! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 41
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We were together right about 2 months before we said “I Love You” (he said it first).  But I knew after about a month but I didn’t want to say it because I didn’t want to freak him out.

    Post # 42
    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    It was about 4.5 months, but I had known for 2 months before I said it. It was the night before he was heading off to college (we were both going, but he was leaving like 3 days before me), so I guess I figured that if he didn’t feel the same way, well…we’d be 2 hours apart and could have the space we needed. But, if he did feel the same way…I wanted him to know before we left! Fortunately he said it right back ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 43
    522 posts
    Busy bee

    A week into officially dating (after ~2 weeks fwb and ~2 months of talking after class).

    I blurted it out after he said that at least someone had loved me when I told him about my past relationship with my high school ex.

    I immediately started crying and he said it back.

    In retrospect we’ve agreed that we probably just reallly really liked each other but I don’t regret it.

    Post # 44
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    This is actually one of our funny stories.   We started dating a month after I broke up with someone I was in a relationship with for 3 years.  I totally did NOT want to get involved with anyone EVER again when I met him.  I was 32 and sick of guys who had no clue how to be an adult.


    Anyway, when we met he was working out of town (but was home for the weekend) and we would talk for hours at night.  Well, about a 2 months into our relationship, he called me and we had been talking for about 2 hours or so, and suddenly he says “There’s something I want to tell you but I don’t want you to get freaked out”  

    So, naturally I assume he’s going to tell me he was with someone else while he was out of town.  

    He is kind of stumbling around with his words and I’m getting p*ssed, so I tell him “Look if you want to quit talking to each other thats fine, I understand if you don’t want to be together” and I hang up on him.   YEP, very mature of me!!

    He calls right back, and after hesitating to answer I finally did and he says “I don’t want to break up or quit seeing each other, I think I LOVE YOU!”   

    MAN, did I feel like a smuck!  It was the sweetest thing ever, once you get past the old baggage of thinking he was a jerk like past relationships!

    Post # 45
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    About 3 months in. 

    Post # 46
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    We were very good friends before we started dating, so we already expressed to each other that we loved each other as friends. Then one day I couldn’t take bottling the feelings I’d had for him anymore and blurted out that I loved him intensely and had for a while, but understood if he didn’t feel the same, just wanted to tell him how loved he was.

    Luckily, he told me he felt the same. ๐Ÿ™‚ We’ve been saying I love you every day ever since and it never gets old!

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