Post # 1
I have a very lenient Thank You note policy as far as timing, like I would honestly give someone 3 months for a shower/birthday/christmas gift thank you and a year for a wedding gift thank you.
But there’s a point where I get annoyed especially if I sent a gift via mail or directly from the store and I never get a peep on whether they received it or not. Or worse, I watched someone open a gift and it’s radio silence for 6+ months.
When do you get offended that you don’t get a thank you note or at least confirmation that someone received a gift?
Post # 2
These are 2 different questions. I would never ask about whether or not my gift was received.
But regarding when I would get offended, that would be at the 3 month mark. That’s when they are officially labeled in my mind and the rude one who never sent a thank you for my gift.
Post # 3
When do I get offended? I honestly don’t. Thank yous are nice and I intend to send them, but if I don’t get one I just kind of shrug and think “Well, I hope it got to them,” and leave it at that. If it’s a particularly expensive/valuable item being sent to someone I’m comfortable with, I might ask if they got it just for peace of mind there.
Post # 4
Well, first off, I would personally want someone to ask if they weren’t sure we got something! If I forgot a thank you-I’ll be embarrassed..but I myself would want to know if someone never received something I’d ordered so I wouldn’t be offended by someone asking.
I never expect a thank you note if someone says thank you in person. I also don’t get offended by people not sending thank you cards. So many people call or send a message to say thank you and that’s the point – to acknowledge and express gratitude. So I really don’t care if I don’t get a handwritten “proper” note.
As far never acknowledging – if I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that they received it and knew it came from me, I might be miffed for a little bit at some point but the gift is for them to enjoy – not for me to get kudos for giving it to them, you know 🙂
Post # 5
I would be annoyed. I always check tracking to see if my gift has arrived. And I’m generally excited to know if the person liked it. I have had several packages stolen from my porch and never received. If someone sent me a gift, I would call them and thank them for it and send them a thank you card in the mail later. I understand if it is a wedding or shower that might not be feasible if you have a lot of people sending you stuff.
I’ve noticed lately that people don’t send thank you cards anymore or acknowledge gifts.
Post # 6
If I mail something or send something, I normally shoot that person a text saying something like “I sent your wedding/shower gift straight to your house. It’s on its way” just to give them a heads up in case it’s lost or stolen. But I don’t think I’ve ever gotten a written thank you note, seems like people just don’t do them anymore.
Post # 7
If you’re getting it sent to them I think it’s fine to send a quick message to say ‘FYI something’s being sent to you, let me know if it doesn’t get there!’ because I’m paranoid about things getting lost in the mail. That’s a separate thing to thank you notes though. I wouldn’t really get annoyed, a thank you card is nice but it’s not the reason I gave them the gift. My cousin sent thankyou notes after 1.5 years (lol) and I wasn’t angry I had just completely forgotten about it!