(Closed) SPINOFF: How often do you turn down your partner? (POLL)

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How often do you turn your partner down?
    Almost never. I go for it even if I'm not really in the mood. : (78 votes)
    33 %
    Infrequently. Maybe once or twice a month I'm just not into it. : (57 votes)
    24 %
    Regularly. I decline at least once a week. : (30 votes)
    13 %
    Frequently. I'm not into it most of the time. : (11 votes)
    5 %
    I have the higher sex drive of the two of us! : (36 votes)
    15 %
    Almost Never. We have really well matched sex drives. : (28 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 2
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee

    Other: I’m the one who gets “rejected”. XD

    Suppose I turn him down if I’ve got my period and he hasn’t noticed… that’s about it. 


    Post # 4
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I have the higher sex drive. And my husband frequently runs himself until empty so a lot of the times I’m ready to go and he is out as soon as his head hits the pillow.


    As far as me, not very often at all. Even if I’m not entirely in the mood,,i make him make me want it lol I know that when I get going I’ll enjoy it. But if I really am just annoyed(which is really the only reason) I’ll just be like “rub my butt at like 130 or 2 and I’ll probably be good to go Then” 

    Idk,ilovw sex

    Post # 5
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee


    It’s so addictive and so interesting. Especially from this side of the pond to see all the cultural differences. 🙂 Even my husband keeps nosing…

    Post # 6
    3538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    Somewhere between regularly and frequently. That’s not to say I don’t compromise, he just would love to have it every day several times a day lol. 

    Post # 7
    6605 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’d say only if we’re sick or exhausted.  For us the period thing is a mutual “no way” so no turning down is actually necessary.  At the same time though, we both have a lower libido than everyone here thinks most people do.  It’s rare we even go at it twice a week.

    Post # 8
    3050 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I voted almost never.

    Earlier in the year, I was having a lot of medical issues so it made it very hard to be intimate. My partner didn’t really request because he knew of the situation but we would of certainly been more active had I not had the issues.

    I’ve been doing well for the past couple months. So we’re back to usual us. So, I really don’t turn anything down unless I’m feeling really unwell. I also am probably in the minority of having sex while on your period so that time isn’t an issue for us either.

    Post # 9
    644 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

    In an effort to improve our sex life when we were living together I started to try not to turn him down. Instead I’d reschedule if wasen’t feeling it in that moment. Currently I’m going to school in a different state and he won’t be moving here until next year. So when I see him every few weeks I try not to deny him sex. 

    Post # 10
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    swonderful:  actually under the last option there’s something you can click that says “add option” or something like that. I think it goes up to about 10.

    He rejects me more often than I reject him, like maybe once every 2 months vs once every 3 or 4. We’re pretty compatible. And mostly we don’t even try if the other is sick or seems really tired.

    Post # 11
    1691 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Never. I could do it everyday while he’s more of a every 2 or 3 days. We compromise and do every other day! 

    Post # 12
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee


    It’s mutual, he just doesn’t always remember. Suppose it’s not turning him down so much as grossing him out by having to mention it. XD

    Post # 13
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I voted almost never, but not because “I go for it even if I’m not really in the mood.” I think we kind of just go off each other’s body language and can tell when one or the other isn’t in the mood. So I don’t feel like either of us really reject each other if that makes sense. There’s only been a couple times I can remember that he really tried to go for it and I was not having any of it. There are sometimes where I’m indifferent about it like “eh, not super into it, but no NOT in the mood either, so why not.”

    Post # 15
    3114 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    Never, unless I’m heavily on my period. We have pretty compatible libidos.

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