Post # 16
saratiara2: I think this is a bit harsh. She isn’t saying she’s not grateful. I felt incredibly awkward at my showers opening gifts. She’s just looking for ideas to lessen the pressure you feel to act like each and every present is the most exciting thing you’ve ever gotten.
Post # 17
FutureMrsBex: I feel awkward too. But when literally the entire point of the event is to shower someone with gifts….if you don’t want to receive the gifts, don’t have the party. You don’t have to love every moment, but I do think it’s ungrateful to say things like you would fake contractions to avoid opening the gifts in front of everyone (but of course happily take the gifts).
Post # 18
Just to clarify I don’t even want a shower when I am pregnant. But my Mother-In-Law will make me have one. I’m not ungrateful of gifts, I appreciate gifts I have received. I just dread being the center of attention so much I actually get sick thinking about it. I make myself do things that scare me all the time, I have horrible stage fright but I still get up there. You should of seen me at my wedding, I nearly passed out coming down the aisle. Honestly people still comment about how they have never seen such a stage fright bride in all their days. So what going through my head when I open gifts. “Awe This is cute I like it But how should I react? am I smiling too big? is it fake? what should I say? I hope they know I like it but I’m not sure I said it right.” I am total deer in the headlights. When I got married and moved to a new town and state. People would bring me wedding gifts at random, I handled this so much better. I could react natural and I loved that!!!! So no shower for me would be my choice, if people would give me a gift, I’d gladly accept it and believe me, I’d prefer it that way. I’m an introvert at heart that forces herself to be an extrovert.
Post # 19
I’m not sure how taboo this is but…We have skipped the gift opening at the past few showers and filled up the time with entertainment. The first time it was by accident, we ran out of time. The next the person being honored had social anxiety so we skipped it. Next time we just skipped and everything flowed well. As a guest I can’t say that I have missed it. Just make sure to send nice personal thank you cards in the mail ASAP.
Post # 20
FutureMrsBex: thank you for understanding!
Jacquelinesc84: I know exactly what you mean!
saratiara2: I can and will “suck it up” but in my family we believe showers are more than gifts… It’s about fellowship too and the blending of families. It can be hard for people to understand anxiety if they don’t experience it but no need to be harsh. If you have any suggestions about how to make it less awkward, please share 🙂
Post # 21
saratiara2: also I’d bet theres a 100% chance jacquelinesc84: was joking about faking contractions 🙂