- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’ve been thinking for a while and the other post about vibrators got me to thinking more…
I’ve been wanting to get a vibrator. But I’ve never done the masturbation thing and my fiance knows this. Now that I’m older I think it’s about time I try one out.
I think my fiance would be ok with it. He might like the idea I don’t know. But sometimes (not always but on ocassion) when I mention trying something different in the bedroom he thinks that it’s something he’s doing wrong. He doesn’t understand I just want to keep things new and he thinks that I don’t enjoy the bedroom time, which I do.
So I want to bring up to him this idea of this “toy” without him thinking there is a lack of something in the bedroom and without making him feel like less of a man because of course he isn’t. But it seems like it would be easier on him… Less work if you catch my drift.
So for those who have brought toys into the bedroom (and I’m not considering the dildos, just a little something for the outside) how did you introduce this into the relationship and was your SO upset in any way when you did? Any advice on how to show it as a *positive* thing?