(Closed) Spinoff: Hypothetical situation poll

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Please read and answer
    1: Yes, I would donate : (22 votes)
    4 %
    1: No, I would not donate : (178 votes)
    30 %
    2: Yes, I would serve alcohol : (27 votes)
    4 %
    2: No, I would not serve alcohol : (175 votes)
    29 %
    3: Yes, I would serve alcohol : (68 votes)
    11 %
    3: No, I would not serve alcohol : (131 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    1: No, I would never give my money to a cause I do not believe in. Even if it is for a friend. 

    2. No, it is THEIR party, it should reflec them not their guests. No alcohol

    3. same as above. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    1. HELL NO

    2. No.

    3. No.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    No to all, I don’t compromise my ethics for others.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3776 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2004

    1.  No

    2. No

    3. No

    Post # 6
    Member
    1550 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would not donate to my friend in that situation–I would choose to donate to a non profit with ideals that I agree with. I would explain this to my friend. It’s not that I don’t support her in her endeavor, I just don’t agree wtih what the organization stands for.

    I would not serve alcohol at the anniversary party. The celebration is honoring them and their committment to each other–it’s not for anyone else. Their ideals/personalities/tastes should be kept in mind throughout the planning. People can live without alcohol.

    I don’t think alcohol is necessary at weddings. In fact, I don’t get what the big deal is! If you don’t drink, why should you pay for other people to get drunk at your wedding? They can do that on their own dime, their own time.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    1. No, I would not donate. I would hope my friends would know me well enough not to ask me to donate to a charity I’m strongly opposed to, though.

    2. No, I wouldn’t serve alcohol. The party is a gift to the aunt & uncle, therefore their wishes should be represented.

    3. Yes, I probably would serve alcohol. The party is a gift to my guests, and they enjoy alcohol, so I would probably serve it. It’s hard for me to say, because I’m not passionately & ethically opposed to alcohol. I would guess that I would serve one glass of wine per guest who wanted it and call that a middle ground. I guess it’s kind of akin to me serving a vegetarian meal when I think monocrop agriculture ruins ecosystems because I have vegetarians attending my wedding (totally not trying to start a debate on vegetarianism/veganism, I just have opinions about it the same way people have opinions about me eating meat/drinking/etc, but my goal is to make my guests comfortable regardless of if I agree with their eating preferences, and that is my point).

    Post # 8
    Member
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Over the Moon:  Really interesting hypotheticals. 

    Hypothetical 1: I would not donate, but I would ask if I could help her train or do something similar to support HER but not the charity. I expect that if the situation was reversed, she would not want to donate to a charity supporting same sex marriage or the like. 

    Hypothetical #2: No because the party is in their honor and I sure they would prefer no alcohol to be served. (I would do the same thing if the couple was vegetarian. I would not serve meat as a courtesy to them.) I would want to throw them a party they would enjoy. 

    Hypothetical #3: No because of their (our?) strong opinion of the alcohol industry. If the situation was that we didn’t drink, but didn’t care if others drink, we would serve alcohol at the wedding so our guests would enjoy the night. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    No, no, and no.

    A lot of times when someone is a nondrinker and it’s not based on principle, just on personal taste, I will say just suck it up and give the people what they want. But if it really goes against what you believe, then I say stick to your guns.

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    1544 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would never donate to a cause i don’t believe in whole heartedly even if it was for a friend.

    2 and 3 i really wanted to say yes for the guests… but if they are purely AGAINST it that it would be offensive to them to serve alcohol.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I said no to all 3 for the same reasons that above posters have mentioned.

    Post # 12
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    1. No, I would not donate.

    2. No, I wouldn’t serve alcohol. The party is a gift to the aunt & uncle, therefore their wishes should be represented.

    3. Yes, I would serve alcohol.  The wedding reception is a thank you to our guests and therefore I would want to ensure that my guests are comfortable and enjoying themselves.

    Post # 13
    Member
    14486 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No on all 3 accounts.  No I would not donate to a cause I dont believe in.  No, the for the same reasons for 2 and 3.  If the party is for people who believe alcohol is evil, I would not serve it out of respect to them.  If I believe that strongly about it, I would definitely not want to expose people to it at my own wedding. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    1. No

    2. No

    3. Yes

    all for the same reasons mentioned by @Mrs.KMM:  and @les105:  

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