(Closed) [Spinoff] I know my SO jerks off…and I don't care. *poll*

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you care that your SO masturbates when he could just seek you out?
    Yes : (75 votes)
    10 %
    No : (280 votes)
    38 %
    We both masturbate regularly. : (242 votes)
    33 %
    He is the only one that masturbates. : (41 votes)
    6 %
    I am the only one that masturbates. : (32 votes)
    4 %
    Neither of us masturbates. : (22 votes)
    3 %
    I don't know if my SO masturbates. : (39 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Idk if he does and I dont care either way. It’s not my business. As long as we are both satisfied with our sex life that’s all that matters to me.

    Post # 4
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    He does. I don’t care. If I felt it were cutting into our sex life, I might speak up, but it has nothing to do with feeling inadequate in the way some women might – mostly it would just be, “Hey, I need attention too, so get over here.”

    I really can’t wrap my mind around being jealous about it. I’m not attacking those who are, but I can’t even begin to understand it. There are many emotions I’ve seen others have – though I haven’t had them myself – but I could still understand where they were coming from. This isn’t one.

    I’m not jealous about porn either. Whatever gets the job done – amirite?

    Post # 5
    54 posts
    Worker bee

    As long as it’s not in public we don’t care what the other one does. I have insomnia so some days I’m up until 3-4 in the morning, and he knows I masturbate pretty regularly at those times. He much prefers it to being woken up in the middle of the night. But we do that occsionally too 😉

    I’m not sure when he does, but I know he does. He gets up earlier than me so I’m assuming…

    Edit: I kind of don’t like the attitude I’ve seen in similar threads that whenever the generic “he” is in the mood, the woman is assumed to be available for sex. Sometimes I’m not in the mood, sometimes I’m busy. He’s a grownup, he can take care of himself.








    Post # 6
    2602 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    The idea of catching him in the act or watching is a turn-on, but I would be very upset if I was home, and it was reasonable for us to have sex at that time. This is only because we do not have sex as often as I would like. I am good to go 24/7. I would pretty much have to be dying or have food poisoning to turn him down, and I would have no problem with a quickie with little-to-no-effort on his part. 



    Post # 7
    7387 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I couldn’t care less. His body, his choice. The idea that him jerking off as some kind of negative thing against me, is a totally foreign concept. I enjoy my alone time as well.

    Post # 8
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Where is the option for “I have no idea if my SO masterbates”? I don’t care either way.

    He definately knows that I do….and he doesn’t care.

    Post # 9
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nah, don’t care… I’ve done it when he’s around too, either he’s busy or I just want it to be fast and simple. I assume he has the exact same feeling sometimes.

    Post # 11
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I walked in on him once when we were dating… whether he still does or not I have no idea, nor do I want to know! I’m not always in the mood, and if that is what it takes, well, okay. It bothered me at first, but now I’d sometimes prefer if he “takes care of business” and lets me sleep! But we still have a regular sex life together, so as long as that is not affected, more power to him.

    Post # 12
    619 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    He does. I don’t care. Sometimes its nice not to be harassed 24/7!

    Post # 13
    247 posts
    Helper bee

    I know he does and he keeps porn safely tucked away under the bed. Doesnt bother me at all, in fact, I find it a turn on.

    Post # 14
    3370 posts
    Sugar bee

    @CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  lololol I am one of the only 3 women who do it and he doesn’t. But there’s a reason, he used to do it, often, very often actually. But then he started having trouble with “our” time if he helped himself any time that day (or the day before even), so he had to cut that out.

    Post # 15
    6830 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It is human nature, so no I don’t care!

    Post # 16
    596 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  When I’m exhausted and Fiance is in the mood, I’ll sometimes give him a quick somethin somethin and then he’ll finish while I’m ready to pass out in the bed. lol. I know this would MORTIFY so many people, but I don’t care. I’d only be upset if Fiance chose to masturbate over having sex w me. If it’s in addition, sure, why not!

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