(Closed) [Spinoff] I know my SO jerks off…and I don't care. *poll*

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you care that your SO masturbates when he could just seek you out?



    We both masturbate regularly.

    He is the only one that masturbates.

    I am the only one that masturbates.

    Neither of us masturbates.

    I don't know if my SO masturbates.

  • Post # 62
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    For the most part I don’t understand women that get upset because thier guy watches porn or gets himself off. It’s a very normal human thing to do. As PP said, unless it replaces sex, what’s the problem?

    I do have a friend whose DH is a serious porn addict (and is seeing a therapist for it), but it’s an extreme situation that I don’t think a lot of people experience. It makes her feel bad about herself sometimes, and that’s understandable I think. 

    Post # 63
    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon:  Yeah…my SO does and he told me he does. It bothers me sometime, because he does it in the bathroom and he is in there for a long time. Each time he is in there I ask him. Am I wrong for that? Oh well, at least get me involved. You do me and I do you. We don’t do it as often as we use too.

    Post # 64
    2156 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Fiance says he doesn’t masturbate, and I believe him.. really only because I would know if he did as he’s never home alone, and always falls asleep before I do. I dont think he knows that I do it though.. Innocent

    Post # 65
    292 posts
    Helper bee

    Well, we’re long distance at the moment, so he usually jerks off two or three times a day. I do once or twice a week, mainly because I’m lazy! 


    It really doesn’t bother me, and quie often knowing that he’s doing it gets me in the mood too. To my mind it’s part of a varied and healthy sex life. 

    Sometimes you Just want to get off, so sort yourself out, sometimes you want to indulge yourself, destress, get to sleep. I love it! 

    Post # 66
    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We both do. No problems with it. Some times it is work or we have been doing it a lot and hes giving me a break. Some times i feel the same way. I just want to do it and move on some times lol. i get pissed if he uses my good lotion though. And then hides it some where. I was sun burnt and i couldnt find my aloe when he was out of town. I didnt know you could use that stuff. 😛

    Post # 67
    1540 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t think anything is wrong with masturbation or watching porn.

    We do both seperately and together.

    Post # 68
    2141 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @MsW-to-MrsM:  I feel exactly the same as you. It doesn’t bother me if he does it while I’m sleeping and don’t know the difference, but if I was awake and in the house and he did it, it’d bother me. He doesn’t want to have sex nearly as often as I do, I pretty much never turn him down when he wants it, but I get turned down pretty often, so if he knew I was in the other room ready to go, I’d just be like wtf.

    Post # 69
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    I don’t mind at all. If it was a Trey and Charlotte situation from SATC I’d probably be buuuut I think masturbation is normal. Also sometimes either my SO or I need an ‘itch scratched’ and one of us may not be in the mood to have sex.

    Post # 70
    126 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m completely okay with it. I get that sometimes it’s easier to do it yourself, or that it can feel different when you’re masturbating as you know 100% what feels good.

    I’ve never actually come across my SO masturbating, but I think that I’d probably actually like it to happen… haha. But like a PP, we’re long distance at the moment, so we both know that each other masturbates whilst we’re away from each other. I think it’s a completely natural thing to occur.

    Post # 71
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    While I believe that all men masturbate, my husband says that he doesn’t feel the need to do it. He feels that our sex life is far better than jerking off.

    If my husband masturbated, I wouldn’t care unless it was hurting our sex life.

    I enjoy masturbation so I would never tell my husband that he should not do the same.

    Post # 72
    67 posts
    Worker bee

    I know my SO masturbates and it doesn’t bother me at all, there are times when I don’t feel like having sex, so it’s okay with me when he has to take care of his business.

    Post # 73
    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel

    I do but SO does’t. He works 2 jobs and I am currently not in school or working. We have sex at least 4 times in a week, but I have more time on my hands than he does (no pun intended, ha!). He doesn’t really care if I do, but of course wishes he was here all the time to take care of me 🙂 Bottom line: If either of our actions interfered with our love making, then of course it would be tossed or reduced. Its important to both of us that the other is happy.




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