(Closed) Spinoff: I wanted a big, expensive ring and make no apologies for it either.

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Honestly, I feel women spend too much time caring about what other’s get.  I have replaced my e-ring once and traded in my wedding band once.  The e-ring change was for many reasons and mostly, my Fiance wanted a fresh start.  To him, fresh start meant a whole new ring.  I offered to put my alexandrite into a solitaire setting, but he didn’t want to.  He wasn’t too thrilled about the wedding band, so he wanted to replace it.  Yes, it is 1 carat just for the wedding bands and someone is probably going to say something, but we just don’t care anymore.  It makes us happy and we know our love goes past a ring, so who cares.  There will always be something, SOMEONE is going to comment about, so just live. lol

Post # 33
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I got a 1 carat, Total weight for my ring because my finger is tiny (3.5) and I usually get asked how big my ring is because it looks flashy on my finger. My husband’s friend spent like 300 dollars on his Fiance ring and her firgers are not as tiny as mine! I really could care less about my ring, it’s a material posession that can be replaced if needed. I don’t hold any sentimental value to it because my bond is with my husband not to my ring. That means I’m entitled to feel that size does matter! I really hate when people say “I would never change my ring, my SO picked it, yada, yada, yada.” It’s a ring, if you are attached to a ring, you are materialistic, if you are materialistic you don’t say that you wouln’t like a bigger one.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Fiance actually chose mine but only because he knew precisely what I like already. I’d have told him if he picked wrong XD. I have size 9 fingers but my hands are small, like mickey mouse hands or toddler hands lol. I got 1ct because it was the best compromise between “not making my fingers look huge” and “not getting in the way and on my nerves”

Oh I love big rings and I’d love to buy some beautiful dress up rings but for my e-ring and to my taste a big ring wasn’t right. 

I wanted a moissanite, it turned out to be more my taste than any other stone but Fiance would have bought me my choice either way and I wouldn’t have “settled” we’d have just carried on living together being engaged with my “promise ring” until we’d saved up. 

Post # 35
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Theres so much snarkyness =c Everyone wants different things, some people dream of engagment rings their entire lives. My fiance knew what i kinda liked and he went out n picked it out. If someone wants a big diamond on their finger and their fiance is willing to pay the money then why shouldnt she have it? Id be happy with whatever my fiance got me cus he picked it out(im such a romantic lol, though im guilts of showing him styles i did like), but i wasnt incredibly picky about it. People let their oppinions get in the way so easily. So long as everyones happy with what they have, everyone should be happy. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

My problem is that my SO spoiled me early. I probably would have been perfectly delighted with a .25 carat in a little halo- and then he got me a promise ring that was a 1 carat, 6 X 8 oval aquamarine and I LOVE how it looks on my finger.

I want a cushion cut and they face up smaller, so it looks like we’re going with a 1.1 or 1.4 ct moissy. Sorry, honey! However, I am paying for whatever is over $2000, so if the custom ring set ends up being $2800, I’m in for $800. Helps me to justify how crazy expensive it is. 

Is that too expensive for a wedding set or am I crazy?

Post # 37
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you want a big expensive ring, ask for 2ct. I don’t understand why some people think 1ct is so big. It’s average, at best.

Post # 38
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper

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@allihappy:  Some of us do not like the way a 2 carat diamond looks on a ring. I find that because diamonds are so scintillating and bright, they look much larger than other stones of the same dimensions, and 2 carats is… well, not to my taste, not for a diamond, in a ring. This is coming from someone who did have the budget for one and tried them on just in case. I think my ring would be “expensive” but not “big,” for your standards. It’s the perfect size, to me.

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@allihappy:  1 carat definitely seems to be the standard issue. I feel like over the years since really noticing jewelry, it used to be that you could save a bunch of money if you went with something like a .94 carat instead of 1. But now a carat is the standard, and it’s less costly to keep it under 2. Interesting how it all evolves.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@joya_aspera:  How do you know what my “standards” are?

Post # 41
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Busy bee

Agreed.  I want a .8 carat diamond (1 carat was actually my dream too but since I’m a student and SO will be a student next year .8 is expensive enough for us!  Luckily I have tiiiiiny fingers so it looks close enough to a 1 carat ;)).  I’d be ticked if he only spent a few hundred because although he’s pretty good with money, he likes to save up for big purchases for himself.  If he can do that for himself, he can do that for one of the biggest and most meaningful gifts he can ever give me.  

Should also add he knows I want a good quality solitaire in a white gold band.  He’s picked one out and saved the file on his computer :).  I think he gets more excited about it than I do!!

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper

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@allihappy:  I’m a mind-reader.

Actually, it was based on your post immediately before mine. According to what you wrote, a 2 carat diamond is “big and expensive.” Since mine is the same price as a typical stone of that size, but is smaller, it seemed to me my ring ticked your “expensive” box, but not your “big” box. That’s fine by me. Those two things don’t always go together, after all.

In my opinion, a 1 carat diamond does make for a “large” stone for a ring (and well above average, which I think is supposed to be around ~.35 carats or so for the US), but there’s certainly an element of subjectivity to what one considers “large.”

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@allihappy:  agreed.  my ring is has a 1 ct center. and its a bit small for my area. 

Everyone has their personal preference.  If someone wants a big ol diamond and its perfectly feasible financially, who cares?

Post # 44
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@joya_aspera:  I was actually referring to a 2ct, D, IF diamond. You know, the “really, really rare” ones.

Post # 45
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Agreed. I knew what my DH had saved and I wanted the ring of my dreams. If he didn’t buy it, I would have bought it myself.

Post # 46
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH was in the financial position to afford to give me anything I wanted for my engagement and wedding rings.  Since I was married before, I wanted something quite different from my previous set which, truthfully, was very beautiful – round cut diamonds set in white gold.  DH especially wanted to give me something very different. 

I chose princess cut diamonds in a platinum setting and, at his request, picked out three styles for him to choose from (so there would still be the element of surprise for the proposal).  Evidently he could tell which set made my eyes light up the most because that was the set he chose for me.  Lots of diamonds and bling and I couldn’t be happier with my rings. 

But more than that, I’m happy with my life with my DH and that matters much more to me than any rings ever could.  I would have been happy with whatever he gave me, really, because I’m completely crazy about the man and just deliriously happy to be married to him.  😉

I don’t think wanting a large diamond or lots of diamonds and bling necessarily means someone is materialistic if the man you love can afford to buy it, any more than having a large house or luxury car necessarily makes you materialistic. 

Everyone is different and to each their own.

Never posted my rings specs before, probably won’t again, but here goes:

Center stone of e-ring:  1.96 carats;  including side stones and eternity wedding band –  tcw:  6.46 

Cut: princess, ideal; Color: E; Clarity:  VS1, set in platinum

I don’t exactly know what he paid for them, but he’s never made me feel the least bit materialistic about it.

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