(Closed) Spinoff: I wanted a big, expensive ring and make no apologies for it either.

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 47
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5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t consider 1ct “big” at all.  I think it’s pretty much standard.  It’s not big, it’s not small.  We all know that when we look at people’s rings, immediately we think of how big (or small) it is.  Does anybody ever really look at for its sparkle, cut, or quality!? 

You’re damn right I’d sport a 2ct center stone if my husband could have afforded it.  But for a guy who has been living on his own and supporting himself for 10+ years, I wasn’t being high maintanence about it. 

Post # 48
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5317 posts
Bee Keeper

@Rubbs:   “Does anybody ever really look at for its sparkle, cut, or quality!? “

 
(((raises hand))) This is pretty much what excites me about diamonds, not their size. Not including melee-sized so much, because they are too small to really see properly. But besides that, I love to see all beautiful, quality diamonds, including ones that sometimes the wearer herself sees as “too small” =/

Post # 49
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69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My Fiance was in the financial position to afford a nice ring and wanted me to have something nice. He also wanted to make sure that he got me something I really wanted so I wouldn’t turn around later and say I wanted a new one. So he put a lot of thought into getting me a yellow diamond ring. If I would of requested another ring after that, yeah some would look at me as materialistic and honestly it would make me look like it. Hell, some probably think I am just  having the yellow diamond but its what he could afford and what he wanted to get me and he even told me if he couldn’t afford it, then he wouldn’t of purchased it. 

Honestly I was going to propose to him with a Mcchicken but he wanted it to be traditional and right this time since his last marriage was just a “want to get married? okay” then they got married. I mean my family already figured we would get married anyways so the wonderful proposal just confirmed it. 

Post # 50
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72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsPhilly:  My Fiance said the same thing ‘only 2 rings’ but I have been trying to explain that babies bring diamonds… Haha

Post # 51
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@lia22:  “Maybe there should be a little more “he should be happy you said yes.”

EXACTLY! My husband is so proud I’m his wife. He thinks he’s blessed. But these women talk like their Fiance is doing them a favor by asking to marry them. It’s sad.

Post # 52
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I love my diamonds and I’m not apologizing. People like what they like. Some want a silver ring with a CZ. I wanted a nice diamond engagement ring and more diamonds on my wedding band. I think the engagement ring shows the guys commitment to the relationship. I wanted a serious commitment. Luckily my husband agrees with me so we have no issues.

Other people feel different. That’s ok too.

Post # 54
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@bbsoon2be:  That’s right. Your Fiance should want to give you what you want. That’s a good man. I’m happy you have one.

Post # 55
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3102 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

But now a carat is the standard, and it’s less costly to keep it under 2. Interesting how it all evolves.

@KatyElle:  What has also evolved is the diamond marketing biz.  When I got engaged, back in the stone age (ok, late 80s) the “standard” was 2 months salary. Now it’s 3 months?  And I do think that the average individual is certainly sporting a flashier ring these days.

Post # 56
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Amen! I wanted a big diamond ring and my Fiance wanted to get me a big one. First, he wanted me to be happy and second he took a lot of pride in it and saw it as a reflection on him.  And I don’t consider either of us materialistic for it. I of course would have married him without a ring or with a small one, but luckily we were in the position to get what we BOTH love for my ring.

Post # 57
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think we’re products of our environment. Everyone around me has 1-2 carat rings if I ended up with a .5 carat I think I may have felt a little upset by it, especially knowing my fiancé was more than finically capable of buying in the 1-1.5 range. 

Post # 58
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Busy bee

The thing I hate most about this topic is the insinuation that “Your Fiance should want to give you what you want.” It implies that if a man can’t afford what his fiancée wants, he somehow doesn’t care about her happiness, or he isn’t a “good guy.” I think that’s really unfair.

Of course my Fiance wants to give me what I want, and we do make decent money, but we’re saving because he’s going back to school and we’d like to buy a house. He spent what he thought was a reasonable amount at this time in our lives. Would I, in theory, love to wear a 1 carat ring? Or even a .5 carat ring? Sure, I guess so, but I’d never, ever make my Fiance feel badly about what he thought was the appropriate money to spend. I’d never deign to say, “Well I just can’t wear something that’s not big enough for my taste.” Regardless of carats, he picked out something he thought would be perfect for me, and, though very small, it’s grown to be a part of me.

And really, he is giving me exactly what I want — marriage and a life with him.

Post # 59
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cerenatee:  +1

Another bee posted on a thread about how she was just so ecstatic her Fiance asked her to marry him that she would have just accepted anything.  

I get that to a point, but it also feels like desperation to me. My Fiance should have been just as happy for me to say yes as I was that he asked.  I can’t really put my feelings into words, but it just rubs me the wrong way when people thinks it’s so one-sided. 

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@EffieTrinket:  don’t know if you meant the people judging those who agree with and/or are the OP, or if you meant the people who are/are like the OP, but +1.

Post # 61
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360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I completely agree with you! And I feel like on WB, if you post about how you love your big expensive ring, it’s nothing but attacks about it and crap like, “Why does it matter?” At the time I got engaged, I too, would have said yes if he had proposed with a paperclip; however, now that we’re married and the fairy tale of the wedding day has worn off, I still have a freakin’ awesome ring that I am SO proud to show off! I LOVE my bling, and if you’re jealous that you don’t have a diamond as big as I do, that’s too bad, but don’t be snark about it!

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