- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2016
Hello fellow Bees!
Regular Bee going undercover for this post…I’ve seen a few posts about strippers in the past few days and it made me realize there were many misconcnceptions out there so I thought this could be an interesting post! Warning – if you don’t want to know what goes on in strip clubs and prefer to turn a blind eye I would stop reading just about now.
A little background…I was a stripper in Montreal and the Ottawa area, in Canada. The rules there are a bit different than in the US or Australia. Most of Canada’s strip clubs are “full contact” meaning that the clients can touch the strippers everywhere except the bikini area. The girls take the clients in a private dance area and it costs 20$ per song. The girls get fully naked and there’s often grinding involved, depending on the girl and on the customer. The girls get to keep all that money, except a “DJ Fee” of between 25-40$ per night depending on the club.
I did more bachelor parties than I can remember. I’ve seen men at their worst…Trust me on this ladies! Some guys are still very nice and normal but suffice to say that alcohol, naked women and drunk insisting friends often make for a recipe for disaster. Generally, girls flock to bachelor parties because they mean easy money. Most bachelors get paid dances from their friends with many different strippers, while some friends insist on paying the bachelor a “duo show” where two girls dance for the bachelor at once, sometimes kissing (between them, not the guy) touching each other and faking sexual intercourse. Many bachelor parties are looking for girls for an “after party” as well, although this is not always the case.
Some guys will want the bachelor to go on stage and get humiliated. It usually goes a little like this…The club manager choses 3-4 girls to do the show. Usually the popular girls or girls with the most attitude to attract attention. The bachelor’s shirt is taken off, sometimes he’s down to his boxers and sits on a chair. Then the girls all dance for him at the same time and put their breasts in his face. The girls would then do something “funny” like taking the guys’ belt off and using it as a leash around his neck and pretent to ride him as he’s crawling on the stage. Then the girls make him lay on his stomach, and whip him with the belt. Pretty hard at that, it often leaves bruises. It sounds to terrible when I’m writing this out but this is really a typical night in the cities I’ve worked in. The bachelor parties sesm to love it for some reason and have to pay for it.
We did get the off bachelor who would go to the VIP room for a private dance just to satisfy his friends but really, didn’t want to get a private dance. In those cases, I would just sit there with the bachelor and chat for a few songs while still getting paid by the friends. Of course I wouldn’t say anything to the friends after and just pretend I showed the bachelor a great time. These cases were rare though.
As far as touching goes, we often had customers who were shy so we would help them by putting their hands on us. It’s our job to give a pleasurable experience to the clients and usually, if a client doesn’t touch he doesn’t stay for repeat songs, hence less money for the girls. It’s common for strippers to take a guys hands and put them on our body. Of course if the guy doesn’t want to, I wouldn’t insist. As for “extras” some girls do give blow jobs or hand jobs but I honestly an say that I never witnessed that. They charge an extra fee and this is arranged between the client and the girl. This is illegal here, but it does happen.
For the girls, this is strictly a business transaction. It’s hard to explain, but while dancing I’m generally thinking of something totally different, like, what I’m gonna eat after work, how much money I made so far, what time it is, whether I want another drink after…if I should switch outfit, if my friend is in the VIP room next door etc. I hardly ever remembered a customer’s name or really cared about the interaction, as long as ther were polite and didn’t smell bad, everyone was equal.
I stopped stripping a couple years ago, when I finished school. Stripping enabled me to do so much because I had the financial freedom and was able to make my own schedule. I’m now a lawyer and also have a masters in law. I traveled to many parts of the world and I could have never done that without the financial freedom of stripping. I also met some great friends who I’m still in contact today. In fact, 3 out of 5 of my bridesmaids are former strippers who have moved on to different things…One is a teacher, another lawyer and the other is a business owner.
I also have bad experiences, it could be the worst at times! It’s definitely hard mentally and not everyone is suited for that type of job.
Please try to keep it respectful, I’m simply offering to answer any questions…so ask away Bees!