Post # 91
What do you think of the recent post about the woman whose fiance got a handjob at his bachelor party? I’d be curious what your perspective would be on that. Would you suggest she leave? Forgive him? Do you believe his story that it “happend so fast” and that no one knew it was that kind of place?
Post # 92
yes he knows- I made sure to tell him right when things started to get serious. I was SO nervous because I really liked him! he was totally fine with it to my surprise. What a releif.
About barely legal guys, whwre I worked the legal age was 18 and it was not uncommon for guys to come in with fake ID who looked so much younger! It was really odd actually to dance for them because I felt more like a big sister or something. They were usually so nervous, some were even shaking haha. they were pretty easy customers though because they would just sit there in awe. But they didn’t spend much usually!
I can honestly say that I don’t regret it. In a way, I almost needed this before my ” serious” life to start. I loved to party, I’m super social, and it just worked for me when I needed it. The hardest thing was to actually quit it, and thelifestyle that comes with it. You really get used to all the attention, the glamour, the quick money and the friends you make along. The way. There’s a big sense of solidarity between girls, kinda like ” were all in this together” type of thing. i met some of the most interesting, strong independent women ever. It takes a special type of person to do this. I’m also very curious about why you’re asking this question? Please share 🙂
it’s definitely lots I small talk, and keeping it very light. Opening lines like ” hi honey, how’s your night? whats brings you here today? Do you want to have some fun? What do you do for work? As soon as men start start talking about personal stuff, they don’t get in the mood and won’t likely go for a dance. We definitely dont talk about wives, children. It’s all about making them feel like ” the man”. For example, if the guy is a mechanic, id just say somethibg like” oh wow, that’s hot. Every girl needs someone to fix card for them”. Each job has that type of line to flater. You always keep in mind that you want to make the sale.
Post # 93
I tried finding the thread to read it again and couldn’t for some reason… In any event, from what I recall, the OP seemed tu trust him and was so surprised by such behavior. I truly feel sorry for her that this happened.
The ” it happened so fast” excuse seems a little far fetched to me to be honest. No stripper ( that I know of in the 5 yrs of being in the industry) would ever just randomly start giving a hand job without having discussed price first. That’s too risky of not getting paid. For her to actually give him a hand job, she had to unbutton his pants. That’s specifically the point where the guy should have said a clear NO. But he obsiously missed that opportunity. It seems that for the OP, that’s cheating ( it would absolutely mean cheating to me, no matter how it happened) and it’s up to her to decide whether she wants to forgive him for cheating. If I were in her shoes, I would he absolutely devastated. And I couldn’t get that thought out of my mind. But I would be consoled a bit by the fact that there was obviously no emotion involved. I would never be able to forgive an affair, but a 2 minute hand job ( or however fast it was), I may be able to forgive. But right before the wedding?? That’s insanely hard. How is she supposed to go through all the last minute planning and enjoy her special day wen all she can think of ia her fitire husband getting a HJ from a stripper a few weeks back? It’s a very very difficult situation.
In my experience, I think it’s 99.99% likely that he accepted te HJ for a fee or that his friends pre-paid. no stripper just randomly wants to touch a clients dick. Like, ever. Were there to work and make money, and if no money is involved we sure won’t be doing any extra work. We have no interest whatsoever in the clients who come in other than for the business transaction. I beleive him that it happened fast, but not fast enough not to provide him the time to say no.
Post # 94
Sorry it took so long for me to log back in and see this, and thanks for answering my question! My reason for asking was that, like many of us, I’ve been pretty socialized to believe that being a stripper can cause severe regret, psychological damage, all of that. Intellectually I don’t believe it, because it’s a fact that people have different motivations, personalities, and psychological makeups, and will respond differently to any given situation. But I have been exposed to so much of the “bad” — you know, the stereotypes that good/serious girls don’t do this, that those who do regret it forever and suffer because of the “bad” decisions they’ve made, etc.
So when I saw your post volunteering questions I was just really curious. I’ve read “defense” peices by people who have stripped claiming that it’s been empowering, fine, etc., but I was never close to someone who had done it (or had a chance to ask someone, like in this case, how they feel deep down).<br /><br />It’s really refreshing to read that you don’t regret it. Thank you for sharing with me.