(Closed) Spinoff – "I won't accept anything LARGER than…"

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you have a maximum cost?

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $100 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $500 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $1,000 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $2,000 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $5,000 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $10,000 on the ring

    Yes - I didn't want us to spend more than $20,000 on the ring

    No - any price was fine

    No - I gave him/her a minimum price/carat size, not a maximum

  • Post # 47
    937 posts
    Busy bee

    Lol I thought this was going to be by carat size not cost when I saw the word “larger”. So I was going to say, “my face”. Nothing larger than my face. But cost wise I have no max amount. I can’t imagine putting an actual number cap, so I’ll say I don’t want him to spend more tha he thinks he can afford. So he picked a number and I designed my ring with that numbering mind. Because let me be honest, if he could afford it I would be up in Harry Winston SO fast.

    Post # 48
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016 - Highfield House, Stanley, Tasmania

    I asked him not to get me anything over AU$1000. I would rather him spend the money on setting up our household. 

    Post # 49
    771 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    The only ‘limits’ I put on the ring was that I didn’t want a huge sacrifice in cut, colour and clarity in order to get a bigger rock, and that I wanted us to pick it out together. I also told him I prefered a platinum band. I was honestly pretty shocked (in a good way) when he told the jeweler our budget, as it wasn’t something we had discussed beforehand, other than he said he wasn’t spending 3 months salary on a ring, as he thought that was too much.

    Post # 50
    900 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted “other.”  I don’t want him to spend more than $500 on the engagement ring – it’s already picked out.  However, I’m potentially going to be purchasing a stone for it myself that will cost more than the stone with which it is usually made.  If I do that, it would bump the overall cost of the ring into the $870-ish range.  But about half of it would be from me.  I probably wouldn’t tell him how much I spent on the stone, though.  He’s stubborn about letting me help purchase the ring, but I feel like we’re partners, and this, like other parts of our relationship, should be a joint effort.  I’ll just present it as one of the stones in my collection (I’m an amateur jeweler and have a collection of gemstones), which will fit the ring.

    Post # 51
    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    He picked the ring himself and spent a lot more than I thought he would – $6000- but I’m happy with anything

    Post # 52
    6375 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    He chose the ring. For ages beforehand, he was threatening to buy me something huge and expensive, and I told him honestly that anything over about £1500 would be getting returned to the shop. I also refused to wear anything over 0.5 carats, and said I would like it smaller, preferably. I don’t like big rings, I don’t think they are practical for everyday wear, and I also work abroad a lot. I don’t want to wear something very expensive that I could be mugged for. The advantage of a small, high quality stone is that middle class Asian women prefer larger, lower quality rocks. By wearing a smaller stone, people assumed that it was worth less.

    Some of these budgets on here are just insane. A year’s salary… on your finger? I would be afraid to leave the house!

    Post # 53
    5521 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @JulietFoxtrot:  Our absolute maximum budget was $4800, and ideally we wanted to spend no more than $4000. My ring came in at $2800, so well within budget. I would not have been comfortable with a ring costing in excess of $5k, plus for what I wanted (custom cluster) we didn’t ‘need’ to spend more than that.

    Post # 54
    9 posts

    My range was 1.25ct to 2. He went with 2 lol.

    Post # 55
    1730 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I didn’t want Fiance to spend as much as he did on my ring. He didn’t listen. And I love it, despite its pretty outrageous (for us) price tag. I guess I just didn’t really understand how much diamonds cost, so the price (I just know the range, I don’t know how much it actually cost) really caught me off guard.

    Post # 56
    938 posts
    Busy bee

    I really don’t want us to spend more than $2-3k. I don’t want anything larger than 1.5 carats because it looks wierd on my finger, but I’m ok not getting a diamind. Moissanite or sapphire is just fine with me! 

    Post # 57
    3879 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @JulietFoxtrot:  I didn’t have any price/size demands. He did get me what I wanted though. I looked at settings (per his request), narrowed my favorites down to about 2 or 3, then he chose from those. We then looked at stones together to go in the setting.

    Post # 58
    5191 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Other. I gave him a carat range of .75-1.25 for my center stone. Anything smaller or larger than that does not have a pleasing look to me. Since we are both quality-oriented people, I knew that very good specs for a stone within that range were a given. He chose a .94, E, VS1, excellent cut RB for my center stone. Well done!


    Post # 59
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I didn’t give any input on how much to spend. My DH proposed with a ring he bought me when we moved in together (now my wedding ring), and then took me to pick out my ring the next day when we got back to the city. My ideal ring was a simple 1 carat solitaire on a thin yellow gold band, I picked just that, but when I saw the price tag and said “no, no that’s a bit much, I’ll find something else” – but he wouldn’t have it and bought me that one 🙂

    I honestly wasn’t phased if I got a ring or not, but he insisted on buying one.

    Post # 60
    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I voted that I gave him a mininum carat size of 2C but we actually went to pick the ring together. My Fiance then went and customized it!

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