Post # 1
The comments on a recent thread really surprised me. Many of the Bees that replied indicated that their ceremonies either started 10-15 minutes after the time on the invitation or they intentionally put a time on the invitation that was earlier than their intended start time…all in an attempt to accomodate late-comers.
Whether or not the people who do arrive on time should have to wait for those who don’t is another issue. My surprise was that only one other Bee stated that if the invitation says 5:00, 5:00 is the time the bride makes her way down the aisle.
I had always thought that was the rule? If an invitation says 5:00, I am always sure to be in my seat by 4:30, if not 4:15 (if I suspect the church will be full or it’s a very formal wedding with a lot of attendants). I would never go intending to get there right at 5:00. Nor would I expect the ceremony to just be starting at 5:00. Has the rule changed? Am I the only one who does this?
Post # 3
I expect that the ceremony starts at the stated time, and that as a guest, you should be there 15 – 20 minutes earlier than stated time.
Post # 4
I struggled with this one for such a long time, but my venue suggested that for a 6pm ceremony start, our invitations read 5:30. It seems that there is the least amount of uniformity on this subject! But it all worked out okay – we ended up telling our guests to arrive between 5:30-5:45 in an email correspondence before the wedding, so that they were aware that the wedding didn’t start at 5:30.
Post # 5
Traditionally, it meant the bride would be walking down the aisle at 5:00. Now, it means that the ceremony will start at 5:00.
If I get an invite that says 5:00, I’ll be there by 4:30 – 4:45 and I won’t be happy if I’m forced to sit around for 45-60 minutes trying to accomodate rude late-comers.
Post # 6
I got married at home, and the invites said 6pm. As soon as it was 6, we locked the doors and put a sign up forl late comers to enter through the back, and started the ceremony. I was so nervous and I hate to be late so I wanted to start right on time. I expect the ceremony to start at the time noted on the invite, and I arrive earlier that what it states.
Post # 7
@Mrs.KMM: Agree completely.
Post # 8
Our invitation says 5:30 and I plan to start as close to that as possible. If we’re waiting on some VIP’s to be seated then I’m fine pushing it back 10 minutes or so but no more than that. Whenever I receive an invitation I always assume that the specified time is when the ceremony will begin so I always arrange to be early (normally 15-30 minutes). To be honest, I HATE when couples “lie” on their invitations. They’re just punishing those who were respectful and on-time (or early).
Post # 9
I always thought it meant the bride’s processional starts at 5:00. Our invitations said the ceremony started at 4:00, and I walked down the aisle at 4:05, only because of some technical difficulties with the dj and the priest. Otherwise, it would have been exactly on time.
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: Yep! 100% agree.
Post # 11
I agree that guests should be there and seated by at least 4:50, I would expect to only start around 5:10-5:15.
Post # 12
While in a perfect world guests would arrive early and the ceremony would start on time, that’s usually not the case. Whether the guests are just inconsiderate and habitually late, or whether unavoidable delays keep some from getting there on time, there will usually be latecomers.
No bride wants to start walking down the aisle only to have Aunt Mildred burst through the doors, dash past her and squeeze past a row of guests to an empty seat whispering, “Sorry, sorry.” So I can kind of understand postponing the start of the wedding to accommodate latecomers, if only to minimize distractions during the ceremony.
Post # 13
@linguo42: LOL. I’m my opinion Aunt Mildred can wait at the flippin door! LOL.
Post # 14
@.twist.: What Aunt Mildred should do and what she will do are two very different things. 😉
Post # 15
Wow, it looks like this is one rule on which there really is no consensus.
Post # 16
Our venue opens to the public at 6pm and we are having my bridesmaids start walking at 6:30pm. Our invites also say 630pm and I’m really hoping that everyone gets there from 6-629pm.