Post # 1
If you had married the person (or one of the people) you were dating at 20 or in your early twenties, where would you be now?
For me, I’m sure I’d be divorced because I dated lots of guys that wanted kids eventually and I always knew I didn’t want any. In one of my serious relationships, I’d have spent a lot of time working overtime hours to support the guy as he got constantly laid off from his labile, minimum wage jobs. As it was, at the time I got tired of trying to convince him to go back to college to get a better job. He never did, so to this day he has girlfriends supporting him. What a frustrating marriage that would have been!!
Post # 3
I would probably be living in a teeny tiny aparment in NYC, and I probably wouldn’t have a Ph.D.
Post # 4
Ok, I’m not quite 30 yet, but I am going to answer anyway!! I dated a guy from 16-20, I was certain we would me married and live happily ever after. Had we married, I would be either totally miserable, or divorced. I started dating my husband right before I turned 21, we got married right before I turned 26, and I am so glad that it happened the way it did!! My ex was not right for me, and my husband is perfect for me.
Post # 5
Divorced. And hopefully somehow I found my H and married him anyway!
Post # 6
I would either have been divorced or extremely unhappy. In my early 20s, I was with my ex, and we were talking about getting married. Then one day, I woke up and realize that he’s not at all the type of guy I wanted to be with let alone marry. He was lazy and unmotivated…never wanted to do anything except sit at home. I got fed up with it and broke up with him my senior year of college…and thank goodness.
Post # 7
@MadameTussaud: If I had married my BF that I had at age 20 I would be living in a small apartment, he’d probably be cheating on me and I would be the only one working/bringing in money. He would be hanging out with his friends all the time and ignoring me. Or more likely, we’d be divorced.
Luckily at 27 I am marrying a fabulous guy who has a wonderful job that allows me to work part time, we live in a beautiful 4 bedroom home, I drive a nice car, have a dog that we love, he spends a lot of time with me, he has a wonderful family and is someone I am 100% comfortable around, can say anything, wonderful sex life, he’s funny/entertaining, we just love being together. We have very similar goals financially/family wise and just click. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world every day!!
Post # 8
I didn’t have any *serious* relationships or anything that lasted beyond 6 months at that age, but knowing how much fun I was having, I know that I would have missed out on having the best days of my life with my girlfriends and just being young, single, crazy and carefree!!
Post # 9
Married to a guy with no ambition, no good taste, and fighting over getting basic cable.
Post # 11
A) Living near my hometown, feeling trapped and unable to pursue my life goals,
B) Living where I do now, pursuing my life goals, but with a husband who was emotionally and socially dependent on me to an unhealthy degree
Post # 12
Definitely divorced. I wasn’t anywhere close to being emotionally ready for marriage when I was in my early 20s. Plus, I dated pretty good guys but I never had any serious feelings for any of them – we wouldn’t have lasted a year. If my husband and I had met when I was younger, I still don’t think we would have made it.
Post # 13
I started dating my guy at 18. I am now almost 27. We are super strong and happy together. We have literally grown up together…but we had 2 big rough patches many years ago when we were in early 20s and worked VERY hard at getting through them. I think not being married helped because we had the choice to walk out more easily than going through a divorce. But we fought to stay together, without any kind of “we are married, we made vows, we HAVE to get through this.” It was more like “Im young, I can date others, we’re having problems, but I really love you and want to give it every chance I have.”
We seriously just loved dating and each other’s company and building our lives separately but together. I was never in a rush to be married. So now that we are getting married, it’s exciting. And a lot of our friends are excited bc theyve grown up with us too 🙂 I am really lucky it worked out this way, and that he is still the type of guy I want this many years later. But I am super super glad we didn’t get married early. We definitely had the money and stable careers to at that point as well. But looking back, I just think life was so much more fun this way 🙂
Post # 15
I’d probably be happy, I’m still friends with that ex.
Post # 16
Married to my DH! But I’m glad we both did some growing up together before tying the knot. Otherwise it might have been a bumpy first few years of marriage. Not to mention that I’m not sure how a wedding and marriage would have affected my studies.