(Closed) SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

@ImagineDragon24:  Good for you! This may or may not be your last name, but I wanted to point out that several people rock the “Wang” last name: Vera and Alexander, for example. I’ve always wondered why it was spelled that way, because in reality it sounds more like “Wong.”

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I changed my 13 letter Polish last name to my husbands 4 letter Indian last name. My husband really wanted me to keep my maiden name because he liked it so much but I was ready for something easier to spell & pronounce. My new last name just so happens to be a Polish word as well so it was a good compromise. 

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

I really, really like my SO’s last name. Never really liked my own. So I’d be happy to snatch his up in a heartbeat though professionally I’ll probably keep my maiden name just because changing all that would be a reall headache.

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My Fiance is half caucasian/half Pakistani (which is reflected in his last name) and I am Spanish/Mexican/Native American. I am however, light skinned (comes from my Spanish blood) so it will look odd having his last name. Like the original poster, I LOVE my Spanish last name and it is what makes me relate to my dad, who I am super close to. It will become my legal middle name, my current middle name will be merged with my first name as my new legal first name and I will take FI’s last name. It’s nice because some people already call me by my first/middle name! 

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Fiance name is polish and no one can pronounce it. I am going to take it but I am sad to be losing my 3 letter easy peasy name!

Post # 39
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am white American and Fiance is puerto Rican. His last name has a good Share of Q’s, V’s, and Z’s lol. I will not be taking it. Part of the reason is due to the culture (doesn’t exactly “fit” me and I can’t identify it), but I think I would keep my own name regardless.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m african American. My Fiance is half Caucasian and half Native American. We both have Caucasian sounding names so it wasn’t an issue for me. What was an issue was that I have begun my career with my own name. Many people in my profession keep their own name. Fiance and I decided to hyphenate. So I do understand wanting to hold on to your last name OP. You feel like it ls a part of you. I would wait before doing anything to your name until your certain. The deciding factors for me were that a) my Fiance wanted me to take his name in some capacity and b) I wanted the same name as my future children.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Fiance is Italian and I am Chinese, so we both have very ethnically-specific names. I will end up having an Asian-sounding first name with an Italian surname. In addition, there’s the question of personal branding due to my job. I think I will end up changing it though, it would mean a lot to my Fiance. 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Eh, my ancestors never did anything worth bragging about. Don’t mind dropping my name to take his Scottish/Welsh last name.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve got an Irish last name and I’m marrying someone with a Hispanic last name and taking his name. I’m pretty sure everyone is going to be confused seeing my name on paper and then meeting me… parent-teacher conferences are going to be weird for sure! There are a few other half-white kids in my FI’s family, and they definitely don’t look white at all. If that’s any indication to how our kids will turn out, I’d rather have the same Hispanic last name as my kids than have everyone assume I’m the nanny if I keep my maiden name. 😛

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@TorontoBride2be:  That’s what my brother-in-law did with his surname, he wasn’t fond of his stepfather which he grew up with and has no attachment to his surname… and he didn’t want his biological dad’s name. He was contemplating taking on our surname, but decided to start something new and chose a new name for himself.

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m caucasian with an Italian last name – my FH is Chinese-American with a definitely ethnic last name. Having his name is important to me for our future family, but I do love my current last name and it reflects an important part of who I am. My current plan is to take his name and use my current last name as my middle name. Professionally, I may keep using my current last name – haven’t 100% decided on that.

I have wondered what it will be like to have people assume I’m Asian before they see me in person… everyone always tells me there’s a Seinfeld episode about that so I need to find it on Hulu or something. Overall, I love the inter-cultural aspect of our relationship and am excited to embark on our adventure of blending our traditions and making new ones!

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I’m marrying a Japanese man and will be living in Japan; I hope taking his name will earn me respect in the country and I won’t be seen as a tourist. Plus Yoshida is a pretty cool name 😀

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