(Closed) SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I’m SE Chinese; FI’s Canadian (half) German/(half) English. I’m planning to take his last name. So, it will be funny if I travelled to Asian with FI’s English last name. ETA: Our kids unofficially will take my Chinese last name; my dad would love to give them Chinese names. ๐Ÿ™‚ I think that is fair compromise.

 

 

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@HonoraryNerd:  I feel the exact same way. I am half Norwegian from my mother, and Spanish/Mexican/Peruvian from my father, and I am pale (which I get from both sides), and my last name is the only thing that obviously ties me to my hispanic heritage. I’m proud to be part of my family. I don’t want to feel like I’m losing all that, and I don’t want to sound even more white than I look. Not that there is anything wrong with being  white, half my family is white, but I’ve spent my whole life having to explain to other people that yes, hispanic people come in all colors as well. I’m proud to be who I am, even if I don’t look how others might expect me to. Fiance and his family are very white. And his last name, to be honest, isn’t strongly attached to any family roots. It was adopted VERY recently. I might feel differently if his last name reflected his heritage, but since it doesn’t, I’m keeping mine! I might hypenate, but my last name is a bit long, and becomes kind of unweildy with the addition of his very short name.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My last name is Hispanic and FI’s is Italian. While I would love to take FI’s last name (it goes well with my name), I don’t want to lose my own last name. It’s something I value and am proud of so to hyphenate it is! 

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m keeping my last name because my first name Italian and last name French sound so nice together! Fiance is Chinese and I just don’t think my name would flow anymore!

Fiance said we can name our first child my mother’s maiden name ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

I’m (mostly) Chinese and SO is a Serb, with a short, easy (enough) to pronounce surname. 

I’ve always toyed with the idea of taking my husband’s name once I get married, but I’ve been kind of hesitant for the past few years because my mom kept her surname for me, even after her divorce.  We mostly hang out with her side of the family and she said she didn’t want me to feel isolated being the only one with my last name – so she held onto my father’s name just for me.  Oddly enough, I don’t have a good relationship with my father so the only connection I feel towards my last name is due to my mom!

SO originally said that he wouldn’t mind if I didn’t take his name because in Chinese culture, women often keep their own names.  But after some pressing, he recently admitted that he’d like for me to take his name…so we’ll see what happens later! ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m keeping my last name, my Fiance wants me to at least hyphenate but it would be too long. His is a Jewish name, mine would be unoticeable to most people but it is quite unique and although most people mispronounce it is quite common from my country and I don’t want to let it go.

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@HonoraryNerd:  I’m half Mexican with a white last name and I’ve always hoped that my married name would be Mexican so that people would stop questioning me! But I’m marrying a half White guy with a pretty common American name and I’m ok with it. People were awful to me growing up with a SUPER White name in a very Mexican community. I was told by a lot of people that I wasn’t really Mexican. Who says stuff like that?! Even though I was technically only half Mexican, my culture was 100% Mexican due to the way I was raised, my community and all that. I always felt like I had something to prove, but as I got older I let it go. I’ll be changing from one super white name to another, and I’m actually excited to share a name with my FH!

Post # 54
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m dropping my easy-to-pronounce Italian last name for a really long Indian last name. 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am Caucasian and I will be happily changing my name. My Fiance has a Japanese last name and I’m looking forward to it. 

It might confuse people sometimes but that’s okay. 

I live in Hawaii, though, and it’s extremely common for people not to “match” their surnames due to the high rate of interracial/intercultural marriage here. 

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I won’t be taking my FI’s very Irish last name (I’m Korean) until I get an Irish passport. Korean people don’t change their names after marriage, and taking his last name while we’re living here would just make life too difficult for a variety of reasons. 

I’ve been thinking about this issue though because at the moment most of my friends call me by an English name that is not officially my name (my official name is Korean, obviously). When I change my last name for my Irish passport, I may also just change my first name officially to my English name, to make things easier, and use my Korean name as my middle name.

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Dreams Resort and Spa, Puerto Aventuras, Mexico

I know I’m taking his name, but don’t know if I’m going to do it the American way or the Brazilian way. He’s ok with either, so fat load of help that is lol

Post # 57
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Worker bee

I won’t be changing my last name. In Spain, women don’t take on his name, but your future kids take both of yours, which I like.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’ll be trading in my short last name for an Irish/Peruvian mashup with an apostrophe and a hyphen.  The wedding is still over a year away so perhaps there’s time to come up with a simpler alternative.

Post # 59
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I currently have a long, well-known Anglo-Saxon last name, while FL has a long, little-known Polish name. I always thought I’d be happy to take his name and be done with it, but since I left my home country to live with him I find the idea of keeping my maiden name more and more appealing. Right now I’m leaning towards hyphenating. It will be super long and poorly matched, so I’ll probably use his name socially, but I’d like to see my own name on all of my documents ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 60
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

i am taking his name and keeping my maiden name as middle name. I am Slovak (we have longer surnames for women) and he is Swedish. Im def not giving up my name tho, esp cause it ties me to my family and culture!

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