(Closed) SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 61
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m getting legally married in two days and still struggling with this.  I have an English last name and my fiancé is chinese and has a chinese last name, of course. 

Where I live, it has a high chinese population (more than 50%) who don’t tend to learn English and I worry that if I look for another job, a potential employer will take a look at my name and make assumptions for better or worse.  Also, I worry that clients will assume I speak the language and refuse to speak to me in English! It happens to my chinese co- workers.  

Also my first and last initals will be the same and I don’t really want that either.  I am thinking of changing it at the wedding but not actually doing the paperwork to change my drivers license, passport, etc which is an option in BC

 

 

Post # 62
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949 posts
Busy bee

My current intention is either to hyphenate my fiancé’s short English surname and hyphenate it with my longer Finnish surname or just to stick with my own surname.

Post # 63
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1019 posts
Bumble bee

I have a rather simple Ukrainian surname that people mess up all the time, and DBF has a slightly longer Dutch name that doesn’t get butchered as often as mine, even though it’s actually rarer in the United States than mine is. Chances are that I will use his surname. But even when I thought I’d keep my maiden name entirely, I knew I’d probably change it if we ever moved to his home country. I wouldn’t want any negative stereotypes to pop up if we lived in the Netherlands.

Post # 64
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107 posts
Blushing bee

I’m Afro-Carribean and my SO is Italian…I will be taking his last name when the time comes. It will be a big change, but I’ve never not thought about changing my last name after marriage. 

My SO jokes sometimes that if ever I change my mind we will just mix both our last names together and come up with something new. 

Post # 65
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

My FIs Colombian and I am white, I am more than happy to take his last name. 😀 

Post # 66
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m excited to be taking his last name! He’s Greek and I am Vietnamese so I think my future name will confuse a lot of people.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 6 months ago by  buttaflybride.
Post # 67
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

buttaflybride:  I’m also taking a Greek name. I’m Australian and very proud to take my FIs Greek name when we marry

Post # 68
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LonnyLee:  Really?! We’re both Aussie born too but living in the Middle East now. Been following your other post – good luck with the dress shopping 🙂

Post # 69
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543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Maui

I’m American with a relatively uncommon Irish last name, my fiancé is Japanese with the most common Japanese surname there is. I will take his name because we live in Japan and it will make life easier for me here with official things. I’m also looking forward to confusing people because the face doesn’t match the name.

Post # 70
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1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

Not a chance. Nothing to do with the culture mash and everything to do with it being my name. Both our names are routinely misspelled, mispronounced and generally butchered here in Oz, so from that perspective it would be the same difference, but I wouldn’t have it any other way (unless he wanted to take mine ).

Post # 71
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am Chinese and Fiance is caucasian. I am not changing my last name but it actually has nothing to do with my cultural background at all. I wouldn’t change regardless of our races.

Post # 72
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144 posts
Blushing bee

I love my Chinese last name and can’t bear to lose it. I thought about hyphenating our lastnames but that combo just doesn’t “sound” right. I have some time to decide but I dread having to make a decision. 

Post # 73
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

buttaflybride:  That’s great! He was born here, but his parents came here as kids. We’re in Adelaide. It must be a bit different living over there.

Thanks, bit nervous still. I’m really not a shopper, but at least I’ve started now.

Post # 74
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799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I work in a school so I’ll be the random white lady with a Spanish last name. Darling Husband is Filipino. 

Post # 75
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80 posts
Worker bee

I won’t be changing my name only because it’s not done in Spain, where we live. Plus it’ll make the paperwork getting me legal over here afterwards less complicated, lol. If we lived in the States though, I’d definitely change it.

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