(Closed) SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 7 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 91
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Busy bee

I’m glad this thread popped up! I love reading about all the fun combos. 

My decision will be easy… I’m not actually related to anyone with my last name. My dad took his step-father’s last name when he was younger. The step-father was a total brute, my dad only took the name to make his mother happy. My dad kept it for professional reasons, but both my parents are re-married, and my mum took my step-father’s last name. So there is only one other person in my family with my last name, and even he doesn’t really like it! So it’ll be nice to change it ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 92
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Helper bee

This is a great thread, I’m glad it has been revived!

I always thought I would change my name…but we’ve actually discussed it and I’m not so sure anymore. I have a chinese surname that most definitely does not hyphenate well, but at the same time taking his non chinese surname makes me feel like I’m losing part of my cultural identity, which having grown up in the UK, took some time to find in the first place.

At the same time, I want to have the same name as my kids and all the usual reasons for taking the same name. If it didn’t sound so silly, I would definitely consider hyphenating/combining though!

Post # 93
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Blushing bee

I’m Nigerian and he is American white with the most American last name. Culturally Nigerian’s hyphenate or take the Fiance last name, but I’m 98% sure I will keep my last name. My first name and his last name sound very strange together and I am proud of my culture! Funny enough, my side of the family is not in favor of me keeping my last name (culture) and his side is in favor (his mum kept hers). At the end of the day, it’s my choice, of course and he doesn’t care either way so I think I’ll keep my Naija name ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Fiance is Spanish and I’ll be taking his last name even though it’s not done here. I have just always imagined my husband, kids, and I would have the same last name. Will make my life in Spain easier too since people are always confused that I only have one last name! Still working out the details though, since his name has an ñ and the U.S. doesn’t allow any special characters on IDs.

Post # 95
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Worker bee

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rmca:  My FH is Spanish too! Where do you live? We’re in Madrid ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 96
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

i’m a VERY pale Irish girl marrying a very dark Spanish man with a VERY spanish last name. People who will read my name without knowing me personally will be very surprised to meet me!! I think if you have a personal connection to your last name you should keep it! If your future husband doesn’t mind then what’s the issue? Your wedding your rules my dear! Best of luck!

Post # 97
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I have an Italian last name thanks to my dads side. But I look black and mexican thanks to my moms side. My Fiance hase a very very very russain last name. My Nana who has a thick mexican accent can’t pronounce it. I look forward to see peoples reactions when they are expecting a white girl and get me this short curly haired black/mexican girl!

Post # 98
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Worker bee

I took my husbands last name as is the tradition in my home country (but not in his). He was very happy when I told him about my decision, we are a family after all ๐Ÿ™‚

Now my whole name sounds very German but we have nothing to do with Germany ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 99
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Petersburg, Russia

I’m Russian and my Fiance is American and I’m definitely taking his last name even though it sounds VERY foreign in my country. I honestly don’t really care about that. The only thing that does bother me is that his last name has to be translated to Russian for my inner documents and back to English FROM Russian for my international documents. So there’s a possibility that I’ll go from Wiseman to Uaizman since there’s no letter for a “W” sound in Russian.

Post # 100
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Blushing bee

Thank you for sharing your decision making process Bees! This is a very difficult topic for me. Fiance is disappointed that I don’t want to take his name but I have a hard time giving up my chinese surname. 

His last name is also very unique and his ex-wife kept it because it’s just easier as they have two kids together. It just did not feel right for me to be called mrs. MyFirstName FILastName while she still kept her married name. 

I still have some time to decide but I’m dreading the decision either one way or another 

Post # 101
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Blushing bee

I’m Chinese-American and my hubby is African-American. I do have an English name so it goes well with his last name. But I didn’t change it, I decided to keep my orginal name…. When we have kids, for sure the kids going to take their father last name.

Talk to your fiance’ about it. I’m sure your fiance’ wouldn’t mind if you don’t want to change your surname…. My husband didn’t mind. He actually like to call me by my Chinese name. When he start calling me by my Chinese name that mean he dead serious, I better start listening to what he have to say, lol

 

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I have an unusual conundrum.  My fiance has a hyphenated last name.  It is important to both of us to have the same last name.  I don’t want to take his double last name, because I am taking my maiden name/mom’s maiden name as my middle names!  We thought about coming up with a new name, but none of ours combine to make anything that sounds good and we haven’t invented a good sounding one yet.  So I’d have…one of fiance’s names?  Haha.  Sigh.

Post # 103
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Museum

Interesting thread! I’m on the same boat and I keep going back and forth with my decision. I’m Brazilian and Fiance is American (with a German heritage last name). My full name is Anna Middle MotherMaidenName DadLastName (they’re both last names, just not hyphenated), and when we marry it usually becomes Anna Middle DadLastName HusbandLastName. At first I was set on dropping both of my last names and taking his. But now I feel like I can’t/don’t want to let go of my heritage. So I thought I’d just become Anna LastName (as middle name) and HusbandLastName. My name has always been huge, and ALWAYS misspelled so it’d be nice to have a shorter name. But it’d also be kind of weird not to be Anna MiddleName anymore… I guess this turned into a vent session. Haha My own personal “drama”.

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m black and will be taking my FH’s Vietnamese name. My last name is a fairly standard American last name that I have no particular attachment to, so I don’t see why not.

My name is already long: FirstName MiddleName MomsMaidenName LastName (mom’s maiden name is a middle name, not a last name btw)…so hyphenating isn’t really an option and I don’t want to drop my mom’s maiden name.

Post # 105
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’m American and took my Russian husbands name. The spelling is such a pain we actually looked into him taking mine but career wise it would’ve been too difficult. I moved up the alphabet though so hey, not all bad…lol

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