SPINOFF: Intercultural brides, will you be changing your name?

posted 5 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 106
49 posts

We’re both Aussie but his name is Slavic and mine is Dutch. Both are names are long and regularly spelled and pronounced wrong.

I’m keeping my name, it’s important to me to maintain this part of my heritage, and I would feel strange taking a name I have no cultural connection to. That said, I wouldn’t want a normal English/Anglo name either. I guess I like my small slice of Dutchiness.

Post # 107
3054 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’ll be taking his name. Traditionally, in his culture…women don’t take their husband’s but keep their maiden name.

I’ve always planned on giving up my name however for personal reasons which he understands…he just prefers I do what makes me happiest and he’s excited to share a last name. We also live in the US currently so it won’t really be surprising.

Post # 108
38 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

My last name is really unusual and Scotch-Irish, and his is Kim (thus my username), the most common in Korea, so I’m going to hyphenate both to keep an uncommon name and because I think it would be confusing when applying for jobs, etc., if I just had his name. I never thought I would hyphenate my name, but Kim is such a small little syllable to tack on to the end…

Post # 109
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I definitely relate to this post because I always said I will take the name of my future husband as I have a very long and difficult name to pronounce. I am proud to be taking my German fiance’s last name and parting with the old. In my personal opinion I want to share a common last name with my husband because by marrying we are creating our own family that I want to be represented by one common name. To each is own though so decide on what you’re most comfortable with.

Post # 110
63 posts
Worker bee

I’m in the same boat where I had always assumed I would be changing my last name, but because my SO is white and me first name is a common name I started doubting the name change. I don’t want my ethnicity to be removed from my name. After going back and forth, I decided to hyphenate my last name as a compromise of keeping my persian last name but also adding his last name, so there is a common family name.

Post # 111
970 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

I’m hispanic and I never really cared much for my last name, even hispanic people have trouble saying it right. He’s last name is much easier to pronounce and I love it with mine. Therefore I changed mine when we got married.

Post # 112
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m Filipino and Fiance is american with a polish/russian decent. He has a very russian name.. and i have a very Filipino last name.. my last name is really really uncommon so i want to hold on to that.. I’m thinking of hypenating its going to be xxxxxx x. xxxxx-xxxxxxxxx.. it’s long i know and it’s going to be a mouthful but I think I’m ok with it

Post # 113
11 posts

I am going to hypenate ours names together. I am a stickler on keeping my last for heritage reasons. So it will be an italian last name with a polish last name.

Post # 114
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m taking his name. Mine is a very long, difficult, typical Surinamese name, his is a short, easy, Dutch name. I like his last name!

Post # 115
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

I’ve decided that I’m taking my sweetie’s last name. I’m trading a common English/Irish last name that I have no connection to (for several reasons) for his uncommon Italian last name. I’ve played with the idea of hyphenating, only because I’m pretty sure my second degree will also be in my maiden name, but I don’t actually want to be referred to as Mrs. MyLastName-HisLastName, and I love my middle name too much to replace it with my maiden name, so I’m just dropping it. 

Post # 116
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m going to hyphenate! While my name isn’t “dying out” with me, I’m an only child, and my name means a lot to me. I don’t want to *just* keep my name, though, so I’ll include the FI’s!

Post # 117
237 posts
Helper bee

I’m actually not sure what to do. I prefer the Spanish /South American tradition of keeping your own name for life and find it quite bizarre at the age of 40 to adopt someone else’s family name. From the point of view of my own self identity but also that I love history and think its nice to have a name that places you somewhere vaguely accurate!! And I want to remain traceable on Facebook. I’m sick of only being able to trace uni friends if they are male grrrr!! But living in England and having a fiance who prefers me to take his name,  I’m considering options. 

Legally I’m not changing it straight away as I don’t want to pay out for a new passport or deal with all the admin. 

His name is not easily identifiable as Indian and it’s easy to spell. My only problem with it is that spoken it sounds the same as a very famous Scottish surname and I’m not Scottish. Because I’m so fair skinned people would automatically spell it like this Scottish name.  It would be really annoying!

I will give any children we may have my surname as a middle name as it’s important for them to have both sides of themselves represented in their name. But that would be the case whomever I married. 

Interested to see others’ views on this… 🙂

Post # 118
1129 posts
Bumble bee

I had a really common Hispanic last name and my husband is very very American 🙂 But I happily changed mine; it meant a lot to me that we’re a family unit now, and that I started a new life with him. And it has been easy to get used to calling myself by my new name thankfully. 

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