(Closed) Spinoff: Is a dry wedding rude?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Having a dry wedding is...
    Completely RUDE!!! WTH!!! : (52 votes)
    12 %
    Only rude if you don't have a good reason. : (90 votes)
    20 %
    Never rude. It's your wedding, your choice. : (295 votes)
    66 %
    other : (12 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Personally I wouldn’t like one because I like to drink and to me, it’s expected at a wedding. However, in certain cases there are exceptions to this rule and in those circumstances I would be ok. If it’s a couple just wanting to save money or if the couple just doesn’t like to drink then I find it rude.

    Post # 4
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think it’s rude. It’s your party and you can do whatever you want.

    Post # 5
    Member
    8141 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i’d rather go to dry wedding than there be a cash bar.

    Post # 6
    Member
    397 posts
    Helper bee

    I personally don’t think a dry wedding is rude, but it depends on WHY you want a dry wedding.

     

    Most of my family have drinking problems so it would make more sense to go dry.  With that said, my FI’s family is big drinkers.   We are going with a full bar, my family gets to be grown ups and make the right choices.

    Post # 7
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    56 posts
    Worker bee

    I personally do not think that is rude. However from where I come from it is sort of expected that there would be alcahol at a wedding

    Post # 8
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    Ive never been to one, but I would assume the couple has their own reasons for choosing to have one. I love to celebrate with some wine, but I wouldnt be offended if it wasnt available.

    Post # 9
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    2029 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I have been to one but I didnt mind.  Im not a heavy drinker though.  I actually rarely drink. 

    Post # 10
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    1467 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Woodstock:  I think it could be rude if you’re just doing it to save money. (Unless you are having a daytime dessert reception… I feel like people wouldn’t want to drink so much there) However it wouldn’t be rude if there is a good reason, especially cultural reasons. There are many cultures in which alcohol is prohibited, such as Baptist Christianity, Buddhism, and Hinduism, so I would understand if I was at the wedding of someone who was very devoutly religious. I am sure there are other good reasons not to serve alcohol as well, perhaps if you have a relative who has dealt with alcohol addiction and is trying to maintain abstinence from alcohol.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    14005 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I personally don’t think it’s rude. It’s the couple’s choice. And I won’t die without a drink. 😉

    Post # 13
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    9692 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Birdee106:  +1. While I personally wouldn’t have a dry wedding, I wouldn’t be offended if I went to one. It is up to the hosts to decide what to provide guests with. I would be offended if someone tried to make me pay for drinks though, and next time they came over I would charge them for their drinks too.

    Post # 14
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    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Not rude, just boring

    Post # 15
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It can sometimes come across as rude.  For example, at a destination wedding where guest paid a lot of money to attend and then the bride and groom make the wedding dry to save money….eh.  Also, if the wedding is dry and then the bride and groom go out drinking afterwards…~headtilt~

    I don’t think it’s inherently rude though.

    Post # 16
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    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think it’s rude in the slightest. A guest always has a choice to decline, but the host has the right to host whatever party they want. 

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