Post # 1
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Busy bee
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
We see a bunch of posts asking if you take your rings off for sleep, cooking, cleaning and the like. It’s seems like a pretty even divide.
My question is are any Bees of the view that NOT removing your rings for harsher tasks disrespectful to your FI/DH? In many cases they worked very hard to be able to give their lovely ladies exactly what they have dreamed of. Taking the utmost care of that symbol is our job and we all take pride in our rings no matter shape, size or cost.
So is wearing your rings during tasks that over time can damage or dull your rings a disrespect to your other half?
Personally I never wear my rings for any thing that would dirty or damage it. Take it off for showers and before bed. I always remove it before cooking. Not only to keep my ring clean but I find the jewelry is very unsanitry when I am working with raw foods. My Ring touches everyting I do but doesn’t get as clean as my hands do from a good washing.
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
I think it’s only disrespectful if your S.O. has expressed having a problem with it.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
That seems like a real reach for me. I am 100% certain that my husband does not feel disrespected that I wear my ring in the shower. It’s made of gold and diamonds. Not paper mache. And it isn’t any less emotionally important if it’s a little dirty.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
Olgarie: I wouldn’t do anything that could damage my ring as it seems a bit silly. However, so far the only activity I’ve thought it wise to remove it for for safety reasons was diving. I swim in it, sleep in it, etc.
Like you I take it off when I’m doing certain things in the kitchen (eg messy things like marinating meat); but that’s more for hygeine reasons (both because it’s difficult to clean properly so might transfer germs to the food, and because I don’t fancy bits of chicken stuck in it!), and also when I shower (as it slips round and gets caught in my hair). But I’ve been wearing it almost constantly for quite a while and have had no issues; it’s well-made, and it’s platinum which is pretty tough.
Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
The only thing he would find disrespectful is if I lost it!! Which is why I keep it on as much as possible.
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Olgarie: I’m like you, I take my ring off for sleeping, showering, and in the kitchen (cooking or cleaning). I have little ring holders by the kitchen sink, bathroom sink, and on my bedside table.
My DH has never been upset or made a comment about me taking off my rings, although he doesn’t like the ring holder by the kitchen sink, and whenever my rings are on it, he takes it and moves it to a different counter. I think he’s afraid of seeing his jewelry investment wash down the drain! haha
Post # 7
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Busy bee
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
WOOO! Lots of responses! Thank you ladies! Loving it!
Post # 8
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Blushing bee
I am fairly certain my husband would prefer me not lose them. I don’t take my rings off for anything but cleaning the rings. Wearing it while cooking is not going to damage or dull it, if you clean it. I have 3 kids running around my house, and most of the time, they have an additional 5 or so neighborhood kids running around my house with them. I would be terrified it would get knocked down/ lost/ moved. Or just simply misplaced in the chaos. he spent a lot of money to put a ring on my finger. I think he would prefer it on my finger lol.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Nah disrespectful is going out to the club and taking your ring off so you can get free drinks from guys. Some girls are scandalous but it happens.
I wouldn’t want to damage my ring. I have a cheap ring that i wear to places such as water parks or to the gym. I take it off to shower and to wash my hands sometimes.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Olgarie: I’m someone who really only wears my ring out of the house (I’m not wearing it now. I’m taking a break from unpacking.)
That said, its a personal preference. I take my RHR off at the same time. I just don’t wear jewellery when I’m at home (I also wear lounge clothes and I take off my dress/work clothes as soon as I get home.) I don’t think its respectful of disrespectful. I do think I’m lazy and don’t want to deal with cleaning my ring all the time and what not. 😛
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
Olgarie: Not sure I’d go as far as disrespectful, but it is something I consider. We picked it together and paid for it together. While it wasn’t overly expensive it was a chunk of money, that I get to enjoy more than him. So I do take care of it and try to be considerate with it.
I take it off if I’m doing something I think might be damaging to it. I’d feel so guilty if I did something careless and damaged it. I know thats a risk anyway, but obviously certain situations are more risky than others.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I wear mine in the shower and to bed, but not while washing dishes or gardening. I sometimes take it of while cooking depending on how dirty it is likely to get…for example I would take it off if I was going to knead bread…who wants to clean dough out of all those little crevices?
I don’t think my Fiance cares one way or another, but I do….I know how tight money is and I don’t want to hurt my ring and have to get it fixed!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
I think being disrespectful would involve tossing the ring.. Not removing it to keep it safe and clean. My husband obviously prefers my rings on my finger, but understands why I take off something with such a high monetary value when I’m doing something messy or unsanitary.
Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
This whole “disrespectful” thing is so puzzling to me. Whether I am wearing my rings or not I am still in love with and committed to my husband. I can’t imagine my husband thinking I was disrespectful regarding the rings unless I was shoving them down the garbage disposal or something.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
sostobe: I DO THAT! When I am doing something where I still have my ring on at home I almost get confused. Cause I have plates and bowls my jewelry comes off most of the time.