(Closed) Spinoff – is it my responsibility to tell the bride/groom of food allergies?

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: How do you let the couple know of dietary restrictions?

    The couple should put something on their invitations to let them know of restrictions

    It is up to the guest to let the couple know

  • Post # 92
    1845 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It’s the guests responsibility to let the bride and groom know of their allergies, just as it would be their responsibility to inform a host of any event where the host is providing food.

    How are the bride/groom or host supposed to accommodate them otherwise?

    Post # 93
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think it depends on whether the couple offer more than one meal option. If there’s a choice of foods, I think it’s up to the guest to let the couple know of their allergies or other food related requirements. But in your case where the couple only had one meal option I think it would be preferable if they put something on the invitations. 

    In any case, I think it’s really useful if the couple include something like a box to tick on their RSVP card. It’s not just for the people with food allergies, there are also vegetarians and vegans and people who only eat kosher or hallal food due to religious reasons. Better safe than sorry!  

    Post # 94
    5622 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    If there isn’t a place asking for dietary restrictions, I would include a note or something letting them know. So yeah, I think it’s up to the guest to tell the bride & groom of their restrictions.. however.. that particular couple had some awful meal choices.. they should have added additional options.

    Post # 95
    1182 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @ButterflyButterfly:  i have a shellfish and poppy seed allergy. I always inform people. To me, it’s my responsibility, since it’s my allergy. Although, it’s a bit dumb of them to serve only shellfish, which is a fairly common food allergy in adults. 

    Post # 96
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    posted on the wrong board 🙁 sorry!

    Post # 97
    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I’m just wondering, do people think it’s best for guests to inform the venue themselves or to inform the bride and groom? I saw a few people saying that you should contact the venue as the bride won’t have time do deal with it, but it seems a bit confusing to me.


    Myself, my mum, and 3 of my siblings are coeliac, and my little sister is also vegan. So I’m obviously going to be informing the venue about that anyway. I know I’ll have a few vegetarian guests, probably quite a few as my Fiance is Indian so id expect a fair few vegetarians from his side. It seems simpler for me to collect all the info on dietary restrictions (I’ve got a spreadsheet with the guest list so I can add in people as they RSVP, it seems simple to add an extra column for dietary restrictions). That way there won’t be any confusion, or counting people twice of anything like that. 


    Ill ill be putting a line on the rsvp asking about allergies/dietary requirements. I think that as a host it’s considerate to try and make sure your guests won’t miss out because of dietary restrictions. 

    Post # 98
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think the hosts need to take care of their guests, and part of that is having options! I don’t like any wedding menu where you’re stuck with an entree the way you were.

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