(Closed) Spinoff: Is it ok to post links to related posts in threads?

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

As long as you put it in a way that was friendly, I would not be offended.

There is a difference between copying and pasting google images (snarky to me) and saying “Hey, I see you haven’t gotten any feedback yet, maybe you can check out these similar discussions from the past?”

That was a general “you”. Not insinuating that anyone personally is snarky! Oops!

Post # 4
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7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wouldn’t be offended I would actually welcome the feedback and the directions for more help. I think I have done it once or twice to help out other bees.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t be offended at all, but i think it’s all in how people word it. .

BAD REPLY: “someone already asked this question today {Post link}

GOOD REPLY: ” You may find some helpful suggestions over on this thread {post link}. The OP got a lot of great responses!

all in the delivery to me. . .

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

oh and also, i actually like it when people do that, because then it reduces the chance of having 40 different threads about the same thing going on at once, which gets hard to follow, and people get frustrated repeating themselves.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t be offended at all! I think it’s a great idea!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s a great idea but I’ve also seen people be pretty b*tchy about it.  Sometimes, if you don’t word you search just right, you won’t find what you’re looking for so it is helpful if others share with you.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsCoachBtoBee:I agree. I’ve seen people do it and come off really arrogant.

As long as it’s stated in a nice and helpful way I think I’d appreciate it! I know it drives me crazy to see the 5th thread about the same topic in one day so hopefully that’d help those threads get resolved without having to repeat ourselves.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

We have a lot of turnover here, with new members just getting started and old members leaving recaps, so a lot of topics are cyclically rehashed.

I think that it is perfectly fine when posting to be helpful:

“Hey, I see you’re looking for vendors in NYC, here are some threads that had lots of good suggestions!”

but definitely NOT ok to post just to shut a topic down:

“OMG we have already had a MILLION threads about (insert controversial topic here).  So this thread is just repetative and unnecessary!  Use the search bar, read all the old threads, and buzz off.”

Linking to be helpful = OK

Linking to be rude = Not OK

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MightySapphire: Thanks for that. I’ve seen a few threads that are linking to be rude, or just being rude and not linking, and it’s like….excuse me for not searching this entire site before posting!! Hopefully this thread clears this up for some.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Or, I love it when someone is like, “omg, there was a thread about this YESTERDAY.” I always want to write (whether I’m the OP or not,) “well, sorry I’m not on here clicking refresh every 12 minutes, 24 hours a day!” 

😮

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

@Miss Tattoo: 🙂  We all have topics that push buttons.

Some websites are “knowledge based” sites.  Like a Honda Maintenance website or something.  They exist to share knowledge of how something is done.  So on those websites, they always post “This has been answered in another thread already, use the search bar” because the answer will always be the same.

But here, we’re posting dilemmas, experiences, and opinions, and no two posters will ever have the same perspective.  So it makes no sense to say something like that.  Even the exact same question by the exact same person will have different answers in three month’s time because it will be polling a different audience.

But I think maybe one of the PPs was asking about people who post the same topics on the same day?  I think it’s fine to post a link to the established thread, something like “We’ve been discussing that here too: [link].”  There’s nothing wrong with that kind of linking.

ETA: As long as you aren’t implying that everyone should throw up their hands and abandon the thread just because it has already been/is being discussed elsewhere!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

I’ve done this a couple of time when I know I read a really good thread on the same subject recently. I always try to sound helpful though.

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