(Closed) SPINOFF: Is it okay for your man to go clubbing and dance with somone else?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it okay for you/your SO to club without you and dance with other people?
    Yes : (47 votes)
    23 %
    No : (150 votes)
    72 %
    Other (Comment) : (11 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Well you’re asking two different questions here so I couldn’t answer your poll becuase I have different answers for each questions.

    Is it ok for my Darling Husband to go clubbing withough me? YES

    Is it ok for him to dance with another woman at a club? NO

    Post # 4
    Member
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    As for going out, yes, it’s perfectly ok for him to go out without me, wherever he wants to go.  As for the dancing, I don’t think it’s ok, per say, but I do think it happens, and it’s one of those things that if I do it, he’ll probably never find out and vice versa.  I don’t think it’s that serious- if I found out he did, I wouldn’t be happy, but it’s not a relationship-ender and it probably wouldn’t warrant much more discussion than “can you not do that again please?”

    That said, I know I tend to have fairly liberal views on stuff like this, so I’d be interested to see what others think.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1281 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Dancing with another woman?  Not ok in my book.  I’m not ok with physical contact with the opposite sex (aside from hugs with friends and stuff like that).  I believe certain kinds of touches and contact is reserved only for each other.

    Post # 7
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    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Aww crap I voted wrong. I am fine with my man going out clubbing without me, but I would rather he not dance with other women.

    Post # 8
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Hmmm… the image of FH grinding on some woman in a club has such a negative feel to it so I want to say no, but the reality is, it’s bound to happen.  Not the grinding per se, but if your man is at a “dance” a woman will likely approach him to dance.  And if you are at a slasa or swing club it will happen even more.  My guy would dance with any woman who asked him.  He is very sensitive about this subject because he was brought up to believe that when someone asks a person to dance thay are in a vulnerable place; the polite thing to do is accept kindly and then move on.  He does this all the time; a simple dance and then thats that.  I’m ok with it and think he the perfect gentleman 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, he can go dancing, and yes, he can dance with other women. If he was full on getting to second base and making out with another woman it would bother me, but just dancing would not.

    Post # 10
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    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Can he go to the club and dance with other women? Yes. Grinding, no. My Fiance doesn’t grind anyways. He actually dances. Grinding is not consider dancing to me. 

    Post # 11
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    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I don’t mind my SO going out without me. He doesn’t really dance, but if he did, he’d only be able to dance the traditional way with other girls… no grinding.

    Post # 12
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee

    I don’t care when he goes out without me, but dancing with other women when I’m not there? No that’s not okay.

    However, sometimes we all go out with group of friends.  I don’t mind him dancing with girls I know.

    Then again, he hates clubbing and only go when I go.

    Post # 13
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    48 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What’s the point of going clubbing if you can’t dance with people? Having said that, all my OH does is dad-dancing (and he even texts me to tell me about the dad dancing competitions going on) and tbh, I don’t see dancing synonymous with grinding!

    Post # 14
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    I encourage Fiance to go out with his guy firends –because he never does! However, I would not be OK with him dancing with another girl, but it’s not anything I would ever worry about. It’s so 100% opposite his style. First, the places we (us, his friend, my friends) go out are not “dancing” places, and if there are people dancing it’s usually just girls with eachother. Second, Fiance is so so so respectful of the boudaries of what is appropriate and what isnt, I wouldnt worry for a second.

    Post # 15
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    2589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Of course!! Its …dancing!  Not only do I not mind it, I encourage it.

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