(Closed) Spinoff: Is "sizing another woman up" strange?

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Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it is kind of odd but I can see maybe doinquit without thinking about it. That being said, I know physical atraction is important but it isn’t everything. Beautiful women and men get cheated on too- even if the other person isn’t “as hot”. I e dated really hot guys w cut bodies and more average guys w average bodies, I find someone’s type is pretty fluid. I do not think you have anything to worry about- I’m all for opposite sex friendships I just think its shallow to think you’re “better” than your SOs friend because you are prettier- which you never said but that what I got from the original post

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

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devi514:  I don’t think it is at all strange. I think a lot of women like to pretend that they are not human and never get jealous.. never judge people or are never petty. Those hordes of women are liars. It is natural to wonder if a woman is a threat to your relationship if she is spending a lot of time (or any time for that matter.. or NO physical time at all ) with your lover. I think seeing that she is not attractive to you is a relief and knowing she is not attractive to your lover allows you to see the woman as even less of a threat. So goes human nature. Anyone who says different.. and says ‘i trust my man reguardless of what the woman looks like’ is either a robot, alien or full of crap. No one wants their mans bff to be a VS model. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think whether we will admit it or not, most women compare themselves to other women, or in your case compare the women to what you know your partner prefers in a woman.

Most women would cry shallow and call you names, but honestly I don’t know anyone, in real life or online, that hasn’t looked at their partners ex, some floozy trying to hit on him in a club, that girl that smiled at him, or the new girl your ex is with and hasnt for at least a split second thought “yeah alright that’s not even a problem”.

The girl doesnt even neccesarily need to be unattractive, but you know who your partner is looking for in a woman, and of cours ehe has it in you, but you also know if he would og anyhere else god forbid, it wouldn’t be with/near this woman coz she is not his type.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

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devi514:  I size up everyone. Completely natural and I can honestly say everyone I know does this, even my parents so I don’t think you’re weird at all. Some people may think differently but I don’t know them lol.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

 

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devi514:  I size everyone up. Man or woman. Not always for physical attractiveness but just them over all. I know several women that do so. I don’t find it strange at all. Specifically I watch how people enter rooms, the ones with confidence and poise are always judged higher than the ones who slink in sholders hunched looking wary. I’m still my congenial happy slef with everyone I meet and I never let my inital vibes of a person disuade me from getting to know them.

Unless you’re rude to wait staff. Then you’re dead to me.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

No, I think it’s completely normal. I’m very dark haired, and very petite.. all my DH’s ex’s are.. dark haired and very petite.

So if he introduces me to a 5’11 willowy blonde colleague then I shrug it off! 

We all do it, even subconciously. 

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

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devi514:  DUDE! F-them! you SHOULD consider yourself a beautiful goddess! Why the hell did it become so popular to have a low self image?! You are a GD beautiful goddess! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

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devi514:  Girl, cellulite should be renamed cellu-we-all-have-it. You don’t need to put youself down for anyone! 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

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devi514:  good! glad I could help lol 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

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devi514:  No, I think it is totally natural. If your SO has friends of the opposite sex, you are going to wonder if they could be attracted to them, even if it is just a fleeting thought you never revisit.

My husband loves Latina women. I’m a stocky Irish girl. If my husband suddenly became friends with a smokin’ hot, tanned brunette, yes I would be insecure. I’d recognize that is my issue though, and try to remind myself that he married me in all my pasty glory for a reason, LOL.

 

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