Post # 1
This post got me thinking: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/no-social-media-posts-during-the-wedding#axzz2MDRBW7lH
If so many people think its rude that a bride asks that people not post pics on social media, is it rude that I don’t want hospital pics of me and my baby on social media? I’m wondering if I’m out of line here 🙂
I plan on (nicely!) asking our visitors at the hospital not to post hospital pics on social media of me or the baby for a couple of reasons –
1. DH and I are extremely private. I don’t want pics of me exhausted and yucky immediately post-birth all over the interwebs lol…I also think post-delivery pics can venture into Too Much Information territory quickly. I know people who’ve posted pics and realized later that a nipple was showing in the background or something.
2. There is a good chance several of our close family members will be out of town when our baby is born. We want them to meet him in person or at least get their own pics emailed or texted to them before they see him on Facebook.
3. Darling Husband is a cop, and he doesn’t want an advertisement of “Hey, look everyone! Our house is totally unattended because we’re at the hospital! Come rob it!”. Silly, but that’s his police officer mentality.
Is this the same thing as asking people not to post wedding pics on social media, or different?
Post # 3
I think it’s different; especially with reason’s number 1 and 3.
Post # 4
Eh, I think those are good reasons but I think you need to prepare yourself for someone breaking the rules.
Edit: Not trying to sound rude. I think you have very valid points, I’m just saying there is always that one person that tries to be slick. lol
Post # 5
I think it’s okay and honestly, I plan to ask the same of my visitors (although I think it’ll likely be just family and a few select friends anyway). I think it’s a very private moment and new parents can always post pictures of the baby later on when everything is settled. TBH, if I’m sweaty, tired and disheveled from pushing out a basketball, I would really rather not have photos of that circulating around.
I agree about some photos being a little Too Much Information. We’ve seen photos of when the baby has literally just emerged, covered with blood and other good stuff.
Post # 6
@figgnewton: I fully expect that person to be my Mother-In-Law. She announced my pregnancy about 4 weeks before we were ready by posting a pic of us on Facebook that we didn’t even know she took and captioned it “The parents to be!”
Post # 7
Oh, and I have a number 4 – Its my pet peeve when people announce a baby’s birth before the parents. I think its rude.
Post # 8
I do feel like it’s different. You invite 100+ people to a wedding typically and many peolple know so and so is getting married May 5th. You look gorgeous, everyone is happy and you marry the person you love.
No one really knows what day the baby will be born,if the baby/mom will be healthy and everyone knows it is a painful task that requires getting naked and possibly accidentally pooping.
So yeah saying “don’t post this pic because I may detect a slight bit of flabbiness even though my make up has been professionally done and I’ve been dieting for a year” and “dont post this pic because I just pushed a human out of my vagina and im really sweaty” are two different things
Post # 9
Erm… I would say it is different because of #1, because well….nobody needs to see that. However, I do not think anyone is in the wrong for not wanting pictures of their wedding posted on social media sites.
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s ridiculous and I absolutely agree with this. There will be no cell phone pictures or pictures otherwise unless taken with MY camera by my husband for ME to enjoy later or delete.
If I were concerned about Mother-In-Law or someone else taking pictures, I would flat out tell them that if a camera comes out, they are getting kicked out and the picture deleted. It is YOUR moment to share with whom you choose WHEN you choose.
I am personally not going to see anyone besides Darling Husband until after I am in the post partum room, fed, cleaned up and showered. Darling Husband is also well aware that if I see his phone at all during labor, I will smash it into a million little pieces.
I can readily admit that I am a controlling person and that’s just the way it’s going to be.
Post # 12
@ellebeerob: I agree with all your reasons especially #4. I HATE hearing things about other peoples lives online. It’s not your job to release breaking news before anyone … it’s that persons business when they would like to put it out “there” if at all. I think people will respect your wishes if you mention it.
Post # 13
@ellebeerob: I totally agree with you. Couldn’t you limit the amount of photos by simply not inviting people to the hospital?
I am pretty sure I won’t want ANY guests there. Seriously. I am not sure I’d even invite my own family to see me/baby until I am back at home… which is like a day or two I think?
Just don’t invite people. Only my SO will be there.
If you really need to invite people (I don’t see why) then yes, I would ask them not to post photos online. I think I’d freak out if people were trying to take photos of me in that state. That would not be cool.
Post # 14
@canarydiamond: We aren’t informing anybody til after baby is born, and it will just be my ILs, my parents, and my sister and her husband unless somebody finds out and shows up unannounced. My Mother-In-Law is suspect #1 for posting things online even with me asking her not to so I might seriously ask my Darling Husband to take her phone, or have the nurses tell her photos aren’t allowed in the delivery room – which is actually true at the hospital I’m delivering. They consider it a HIPAA violation.
Post # 15
@LGenz: 100% This. I will not be inviting people to the hospital for this exact reason. You can come see the baby when I tell you. After we’re home and cleaned up and good to go.
I LOVE social media, and I get annoyed when people tell me that I can’t post pictures of whatever. But I would never, ever even take a photo of a new mom in the hospital unless I was told that it was okay, much less post it. FI’s brother and SIL asked that photos of them and their son NEVER be posted online. I’m annoyed by that because their reasoning is really stupid (he’s afraid that gangs are going to find the photos and retaliate because he’s a juvenile corrections officer…who doesn’t use Facebook…not sure how the pictures would get tied to either of them, since they’re more likely to be seen in public and have their cars/apartment found).
Post # 16
@ellebeerob: This is not unreasonable AT ALL. Your child has a right to privacy. Its their most intimate moment that they are sharing with you and your husband. I would be beyond livid if anyone posted pitures on FB (or anywhere else) of my baby without my permission especially on their birthday.