(Closed) Spinoff: No social media posts of baby?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@ellebeerob:  I can see in that case it being different than a normal “nobody” whom nobody cares about, yes

Post # 50
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@ellebeerob:  yeah, definitely not a good idea. We both have fb profiles (his under a nickname) and we’re usually pretty careful about not posting/tagging photos of us together, and are not listed as “in a relationship/married/whatever” but some guests did post/tag wedding photos.  First shift back from our honeymoon a “client” congratulated him in his recent wedding and inquired as to whether “having such a pretty wife makes you worry about leaving her home alone on long night shifts”.  We doubt this was true “concern for my well being”. 

So yeah, very few kid pics will appear on FB for us.  

Post # 51
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@ellebeerob:  Oh, I was not being snarky at all! At ALL! I’m sorry if you took it that way, I was being 100% sincere that I think most people are a little paranoid usually but you have every right to be careful in your case, it’s completely different!! In fact I think that’s the least snarky post I’ve ever posted anywhere, haha, of course your family’s safety comes first and it is a different situation than most people are in!

Post # 54
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To EVERYONE saying that it “isn’t possible” for her to keep her pregnancy off of social media sites, you are DEAD wrong. I literally just gave birth to our first child on Monday. My pregnancy was kept a secret the entire 9 months. The friends that knew were asked to not say anything, and they dodn’t. The key is tp tell only those you know will respect your wishes. If you don’t think they will, don’t tell them. I am a very private person and do not like oversharing and having people in my business. Keeping my pregnancy a secret was hard, but don’t let anyone on here tell you it isn’t possible. I have dome it amd I know that it is. Next, I also did not want ANY hospital pictures posted online. Mainly because again, I am a private person. I wanted to keep my modesty and my dignity and I feel as if those pics are for my husband amd I to share. I had 3 visitors: my dad, stepmom and one of my best friends. I told everyone else I did mot want visitors and that we would call them when we were ready. Stop worrying about if other people think it is weird. 😛 Do what you want. If other people don’t like it or agree with it, they can go kick rocks. This is yours and your husband’s moment and you do not have to let anyone else in on it. It doesn’t matter if people disagree, because they aren’t you.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@vorpalette:  Your FI’s brother & sil’s reason makes complete sense to me.  I work in corrections too, and have coworkers who literally cover an area far away from their home (30 minutes to 1 hour away) just so they have less of a chance of running into their “clients” in public.  Others have a plan on what to do if they run into someone in public while out with their family.  Several have been tracked down to their house even though they have unlisted phone numbers… its a scary place to be.  🙂 

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@ellebeerob:  You can definately tell family/friends not to post anything on facebook.  I would probably say something like ‘please don’t post anything about the baby on facebook until hubby & i have had the chance to do so ourselves”.  That way you’re still letting them share their pictures of themselves holding the baby or whatever.  

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I haven’t read through all the comments, but I think it is 110% ok to ask for your picture not to be posted or even the babies. I would spread the word before hand so people are prepared that you don’t want pictures posted.

My DH is a very private person and does not want any pictures of our baby on social media. That means even me doing it. But I respect his wishes. And I don’t think it will come to a surprise to our family or friends as we asked the same thing of wedding photos.

DH has already told his mom to keep the photos off facebook and if she wants to share with some of her friends she can email them a picture.

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@BookishBelle:  I don’t think it has anything to do whether you’re a “normal nobody” or not…. I work in media and social media and sickos are out there and CAN get their hands on photos of your baby no matter what your privacy settings are. 

I, for one, don’t want photos of my child used for some sick person’s fantasies OR to be used in a false ad/profile/etc… nor do I want predators who.. I assure you.. stalk the internet to get as much info on people/places as they can (there are cases in which people have been robbed because they constantly update where they are as well as photos of the inside of their house, personal info… make it really easy to be broken into! The thief has a map of the house, knowledge of pets, and if someone’s gone or not, their name, etc) on my family for a potential abduction/stalking.

I also don’t plan to be a parent who allows my child to have their own facebook age as a child, preteen, or even early teen. What right do I have to tell them not to if I’m posting their pic all over the place?

I wish I was being ficticious on my worries, but I assure you I am not.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ellebeerob:  Totally different, and you are competely within your rights to ask people not to post pictures. I will be very cautious of which pictures are posted, and will not be chronicling the whole delivery process through pictures for all the social media friends to see. We will likely most a couple so family who are not in our area will have a chance to see what the baby looks like. 

Post # 60
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I TOTALLY agree with you! I wouldn’t mind ONE posed picture of me, baby, and Fiance together several hours after the birth after I’ve taken a sponge bath, but PLEASE no pictures moments after I finish pushing!

Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@ellebeerob:  That is crazy, you’ll see I responded on our June bug board, but I feel so bad for your friend. A time that should be joyful and special is being tainted by such an ugly act. 

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