(Closed) Spinoff: No social media posts of baby?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Sweethart:  That’s what email is for… personal note and a photo to those family members do the trick just fine.

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I plan on asking people to not post pictures of me in the hospital on social media. I don’t mind having the pictures and will want them for personal reasons but there’s no reason to have pictures from the hospital when they can wait a couple of days until after we go home.

Like one or two pictures of the baby and maybe of my husband are fine but that’s it.

On a related note I don’t ever “check-in” so I’m not worried about that but I do plan on having DH or even myself post when we go into labor and when the baby is born so that family in TX and SD can be updated all at once.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Totally reasonable! I hate people posting my private stuff on social media and plan on keeping my baby off it entirely.

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I miss the days before Twitter, Facebook and all the others. It sure was a lot easier to control the flow of information, and picture etiquette has completely gone out the window. It will be my fiance’s job to tell people not to bring cameras, that we just want to visit, etc., before the big day. A hard task for my in-laws, as it’s rare I catch them without cameras to their faces.

I don’t think this is unreasonable at all, and I think a decent person would just accept it.

The hard part is controlling information after that. As soon as you mail a picture to someone, there’s a possibility it’s going to be scanned and put up online. As soon as you e-mail or text a picture, it’s already in an easily-spread digital form. As soon as that information is digitized, it’s basically fair game – you can count on those pictures being everywhere.

 

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with you! It might sound silly, but when it’s time for Fiance and I to have kids, I’d kind of like us to be the first ones to post a picture of our child. Plus, I want to veto anything gross – I’m not going to be one of those mums that puts makeup on ten minutes post-delivery, but I also don’t want Facebook pics of my naked baby covered in bodily fluids and me looking like some kind of wildebeest.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@ellebeerob:  I completely agree that families of police officers have to be particularly careful. I’ve just found out about this recently – one of my best friends recently graduated from the police academy, he doesn’t use his real name on social media, and he asked us all not to tag photos of him in uniform in case someone ever tracked him down.

Post # 69
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you can do whatever your comfortable with, we have a girl that we know that just had a baby and she waited days to even post pictures of the baby, and it really got me thinking that when my Fiance & I have our baby I want to do the same thing, I think people get so sucked into social media that they put their whole lives in there. I think having a baby is such a special moment, and once you put it on social media it makes it everyone elses moment too, I think after everyone you wanted to see the baby its nice to put pictures on of friend or family that live fair away and wont be able to see photos, but i complety agree with you

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ellebeerob:  

Totally reasonable and understandable! 

 

One of my bestfriends hates social media, has no facebook or any sort of online presence (although her sisters, brother and mom have fbs). She had a daughter (now a two year old) and asked me not to post pictures anyway (which I COMPLETELY respect to a T and completely understand as well, she is a very private person). Anyway, it’s a bit hard for me as I’m a photographer and need to generate business (lol kidding, I’m a hobbiest) and her daughter is so dang beautiful (as is mom) 😛 I still abide of course! I couldn’t imagine  damaging her trust or disrespecting her by posting anything! 

Her family also respects her and they don’t post pictures as well (and she’s the first/only with a child). 

Post # 71
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I know someone who used to work tracking down pedophiles. For that reason, when they had a baby they wanted no pics on social media… EVER. I’m friends with a lot of their friends and family and as far as I can see, everyone has abided by their request. The baby is almost 18 months old!

Post # 72
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I felt the same way but before we could say anything I was still in the delivery room and pictures of my baby were on facebook. I was so pissed but my bf said what do you expect? ughhh

Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am in the same boat as many of you are, when I have a child I do not want any photos posted onto social media websites. I can see my Mother-In-Law and SIL (Husbands side) trying to break this rule – but I will draw a hard line, a very hard line when it comes to someone else putting pictures of my child on FB. It is not their child, they did not birth said child, and they are not in charge of the privacy/safety for that child 100% of the time, that is my job. Ugh, I will be livid if something like this happens to my hubby and I!

Post # 74
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@SpookyRooster:  Agree with you 100%, you and I sound like we could be friends. Both have strict hard lines on privacy Smile I am actually very tired of social media “Brag-Book” campaigns for the baby. People who post so much about their new baby – that their page is no longer even about them, it is all about some baby. Like where did you go? Did you die? Ha. I realize their life changed, but my goodness – they don’t even post pictures of themselves anymore.

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@CookieCreamCakes:  THIS!!! I agree with you. The first thing my Future Mother-In-Law does when she leaves the house (EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!) is grab her camera! Charges the batteries nightly. Who does that everyday? Really!!! Unless you are a professional photographer! She is NOT! She has a point and shoot – I won’t even get started. No camera in her hand, my hubby better search her. Or I will call security if I have to, and I like my FMIL!

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so confused why people think it’s unreasonable for brides/new mothers/anyone to request “no photos on social media.” If it’s not your face (or your kid’s face) then it is none of your business, period. If you want to advertise every moment of your life on the internet, go for it. Post 1000 pictures a day of what you’re eating, what your kid is wearing, where you’re going – have a good time. When I ask you (politely) to please not post pictures of me (and my future children) on the internet, respect what I’m asking.

Yes, I was one of “those brides” who asked people not to post pictures of DH and I on FB. We chose to share photos via our personal, password-protected website, and via email/mailed photos with the people we love and cherish. We chose not to share photos with the 400+ people you have on your FB friends list, whom we have never met.

Sorry to get so ragey, but I’ve had this conversation so often lately that I’m starting to get annoyed about it. People want the right to do what THEY want, but they do not want to respect the rights of other people. It’s completely and totally aggravating.

If you love social media, that’s awesome and I’m glad you have so much fun. We don’t, so leave us out of it. It doesn’t need to be a discussion, debate, argument, or anything else. Bleh.

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