Post # 1
Seeing an earlier post, it made me think about the gifts I’ve gotten for my bridesmaids. I feel like I should add in something that isn’t wedding-related. I feel like the gifts should be different, since each girl has their own personality. However, I’m worried about getting them different things, because what if one girl would rather have what another girl received? Also, most of my girls are coming in from out of town (two will be able to drive in, two will be flying in, and one lives locally). Any thoughts?
Here is what they’re receiving so far:
- Monogrammed tote from Thirty One
- Tumbler with their name on it
- Bridesmaid Day-of kit, with Bath and Body works shower gel, lotion, bubble bath, and loofah, Dermalogica lip balm and facial cleansing cloth
- Earrings and necklace
- Hair and make-up mainly paid for, but the girls will be responsible for providing a tip.
Post # 3
I’m giving a hanger, necklace and earrings for the wedding. Like you, I felt like I should give some non-wedding gifts as well. So far I’m planning on a canvas tote (different for each girl), a small cosmetic bag, and maybe a gift card to a restaurant/Starbucks.
Hopefully I’ll get some good ideas from this thread!
Post # 4
I think that the tote is an especially good idea – I know I can ALWAYS use a good tote, for the gym, grocery shopping, or just every day. its foldable and easily transportable for the traveling people, or could become their second carry-on item.
I’m in the camp that ‘wedding related’ bridesmaid gifts (i.e. attire they must wear the day of) is kind of a cop-out – its part of the look one has for their wedding, so its not really a gift.
Post # 5
@toshella: I like the Starbucks idea. Most, if not all of the bridesmaids will be staying in the hotel at least one night, and there is a Starbucks in the lobby. They could use it there.
@futuremrsfitz18: I agree. I was in a wedding where our gift was a travel coffee mug and flip flops that matched the color of our dress. I’m not really a coffee/hot beverage drinker, and I will not wear the flip flops again. The guys got Swiss Army knives. I kind of wanted to trade!
I know Maid/Matron of Honor is into spa treatments and fitness, Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 is big into geology, meterology, beer, and our college alma mater. Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 is big into cooking, Bridesmaid or Best Man 3 is girly, and Bridesmaid or Best Man 4 is into VW bugs, artsy things, frogs, and she is a devout Christian. This is kind of why I feel like doing different things for them.
ETA: I wanted to get them a copy of a wedding-related movie (like Bridesmaids), but didn’t know if this would be a wedding-related gift or not. Hmm…
Post # 6
I think getting BMs different gifts is the way to go! You could have one thing that’s the same – such as a tote or tumbler – but if you make the rest of gifts personal enough, no one will want what the other girl has. I also don’t think you can count hair and make-up and jewelry (if it’s for the day of) as gifts since they are for your wedding.
I haven’t figured out all of my gifts yet, but here are some ideas I have:
Bridesmaid or Best Man 1: Getting married 2 months after me so I thought I could get her something for her wedding – like toasting flutes or cake cutting/serving set.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 2: Last summer we went on a big trip to Boundary Waters in Minnesota with a bunch of friends and am going to put together a photo album from for her.
Bridesmaid or Best Man 3: She’s recently started getting into camping and hiking so I’ll probably get her either a gift card to REI or an Under Armour shirt.
My BMs are also big readers so I thought about making purses using a hardcover copy of their favorite books.
Post # 7
@futuremrsfitz18: I kinda agree, but… I know I’ve worn the jewelry from my cousin’s wedding at least a few times, so in the end I appreciated the ‘gift’. And if you’re providing jewelry it’s one less thing they need to buy for the wedding. I wouldn’t ever give it as the only gift, but I think it’s fine to include with other things.
What really bothers me is when brides only pick out gifts in their wedding colors. Sure, maybe you love fuschia and orange, but not everyone wants a fuschia clutch!
@RunsWithBears: Those book purses are so cool!
Post # 8
@toshella: I agree, I think a lot of things depend on your personal style. I’ve been able to re-wear jewelry from one friend’s wedding. I haven’t with the other ones, but it doesn’t mean that I won’t ever be able to.
I feel kind of bad…I did get their gifts in our wedding colors, but they were black and a champagne/yellow color. It’s not too bad. This is making me think even more that I want to do something else fun and personal for them.
@RunsWithBears: I agree…the book purses are extremely cute! 🙂