Post # 1
Spawning off of another post, most people said that they would be changing their last names because they wanted to. Most bee’s here live in cultures where this is the norm, but there are cultures where taking our SO’s name is not so common.
If you lived in a culture where a majority of women kept their maiden name, hyphenated, or other options were the norm would you? Or would you still change your name because you wanted to?
(Pretend you have always lived in this culture, it is you culture. It doesn’t matter what the option is, I just want to know if you would stay with the cultural norm, would consider it, or defy it. Also, for the poll’s sake, this is a culture where you have the right to choose, but a majority of women go with option A for various reasons.)
I’ll add a poll in a minute, I am having problems posting!
Post # 3
My inclination is to say yes, I would change it… but that’s because that’s the norm in the culture I live in. I think it’s sweet to share the same name when you start your own family. However, I can’t in good conscience vote that way because I have NO IDEA what my opinion would be if I grew up in a different way.
My imagination sucks! 😛
Post # 4
Because I’ve grown up in the culture I have, I can’t really differentiate if I want to change my name just because or if I want to change my name due to the influences of my upbringing and the culture I’ve been surrounded by.
So I really can’t answer without having experienced growing up in the other culture.
Post # 5
If it were not a cultural norm, I wouldn’t change it. The only reason I did change it was because I felt like we weren’t easily identified as a married couple/family when writing different names.
The customs forms on the way back from our honeymoon in mexico were what really sealed the deal for me.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
I really don’t like my last name because it gets mispronouced as a unfavorable word (not inappropriate, just not what I want to be called), so I would still change it.
Post # 7
I would take my FI’s name no matter what the cultural norm. I like the idea of sharing a last name with my SO and (possible) children. We picked his current last name for our last names after we marry to honor his father. Fiance lost his father when he was 11 so using his father’s last name makes sense to us.