(Closed) Spinoff on “Visitors after baby is born??” and Facebook Question

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@CEtoSAHM:  lol, i like how we created spinoffs at the same time.  i haven’t really thought about a schedule. i don’t think i will have a problem with people coming for a few hours.  i know my mom will want to come stay here for a few weeks as soon as baby is born and i am fine with it. i might prefer she comes a week after, but i will give it some thought and talk to her.  I know i don;t want ILs here at the same time as my mom just due to being overwhelmed and space issues. But i am hoping that won’t be an issue either.  Then i know at some point my sister will come visit, but she wouldn’t stay more than a few days, so i think i can handle that.  She may even be a good help since she just had a baby a year and a half ago.

i think you will be ok since the longest visit is for a week and it seems the longest overlap is 2 days – assuming you don’t have space issues like i do, then it should be fine.

Post # 5
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think its a great idea to schedule people in. The last thing you want is hoards of people showing up. And as far as FB, I think posting something after the baby is born is ok. Like “**insert name here** and mom are doing great!” Or general info. But how much you are dialated??? Whoa, TMI!!!!

Post # 6
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Based on the experience I just had with my brother and SIL’s delivery I will have a no FACEBOOK RULE!!!  My brother and SIL posted on Facebook right when they were really about to begin pushing.  So here is my family and SIL’s sitting in the waiting room.  And in walks a complete stranger.  She goes over to the security desks and says she is here to see my SIL.  The security officer looks-up the room number and gives it to her!  Umm no!!! So I got up and chased her down the hallway.  Asked who she was, and she said a friend from years ago and saw on FB that the baby had arrived.  I politely told her that she needed to wait in the waiting room until after our families had had a moment with the parents and baby.  She got pissed off with me!  I told her I’m sorry but I’m not going to allow you to see the baby before the grandparents and me so get in line!  

So I think it’s okay to post on FB but give yourself and your families time to enjoy this special moment.  Because once the news was out it was a revolving door.  My brother and SIL didn’t get to sleep for 2 more days because it was constant visitors.  

Post # 9
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Really? Facebook? Come on!!!! Ladies, you are about to give birth and you want to post it on fb?! IMO facebook is abnoxious and you should be spending the time focusing on yourself, what you are about to do and become and this is coming from someone who does enjoy facebook, but that is just too much if you ask me!

Post # 10
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

While it’s not totally the same, Darling Husband and I already agreed (even though we’re not pregnant yet) that we would only allow immediate family to the hospital to visit. Ie: parents and our sisters. If our grandmothers wanted to come sure, but otherwise everyone can see the baby within the first couple of weeks.

For facebook, I think the “we are happy to announce ____ has arrived and can’t wait for his/her friends to meet her when we’re released from the hospital”.  Something like that. A friend of mine just used that approach and it was great. Her hubby politely declined visitors saying that mom was tired and needed sleep and baby was learning to Boyfriend or Best Friend. Fair enough ๐Ÿ™‚

Try not to stress about it too much, in terms of creating a schedule … but so far, it looks great!

Post # 11
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I personally liked having the majority of the visitors come to the hospital. That way the visits are short and you don’t feel like you need to entertain/host people.

I think your schedule for having family staying looks pretty good. How far away do all of the Grandparents live?

Post # 13
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@CEtoSAHM:  Sounds awful to me…. because my EDD (I got two): May 17 and May 21. Well… my parents are coming TODAY (May 19) and I feel guilty as hell.

Ask people to come a little later–it will save you the guilt and stress if you are late.

My aunt had her mom come a full 3 weeks before her 2nd baby was born–just another late baby.



I haven’t told anyone who knows about my fb about my dilation because I have the same kind of nightmares.

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