Post # 1
After reading EngagedToPanda’s post earlier on visitors after the baby is born, I started wondering what all the soon to be mother’s plans are? Also, bees that have had babies, what worked best/what do you regret? I tried reading through old posts but the ones I found were from like a year ago.
Here is our proposed schedule:
Baby Born: August 2nd *current due date*
My parents visit: 8/2 to 8/9
Father-In-Law visit: 8/2 to 8/4
My brother visits: 8/3 for a couple hours at the most
Darling Husband and I return to “real world” (work/school): 8/20
MIL/SFIL visit: 9/1-9/3
No other relatives care/can afford to visit, so it should just be the ones above. Does this schedule seem manageable bees? I’m a first timer so I don’t know what exactly to expect :/ It’s the first grandchild on all sides, so I’m guessing that the visits will really increase beyond the nice little schedule I have above as the baby gets older.
Also, a somewhat unrelated question: Has anyone actually had other people on Facebook announcing centimeters dialated? I had a dream last night that my Mother-In-Law did this and I woke up pretty mortified…lol!
Post # 3
@CEtoSAHM: lol, i like how we created spinoffs at the same time. i haven’t really thought about a schedule. i don’t think i will have a problem with people coming for a few hours. i know my mom will want to come stay here for a few weeks as soon as baby is born and i am fine with it. i might prefer she comes a week after, but i will give it some thought and talk to her. I know i don;t want ILs here at the same time as my mom just due to being overwhelmed and space issues. But i am hoping that won’t be an issue either. Then i know at some point my sister will come visit, but she wouldn’t stay more than a few days, so i think i can handle that. She may even be a good help since she just had a baby a year and a half ago.
i think you will be ok since the longest visit is for a week and it seems the longest overlap is 2 days – assuming you don’t have space issues like i do, then it should be fine.
Post # 4
@dynamic_duo: That is funny! I just replied to your spinoff 🙂 I’m not sure on space issues yet– we just sold our house (close on June 1st) and are looking for a new one. I’m hopeful that Father-In-Law will find a hotel to stay at…in fact, I think I’ll have Darling Husband ask him to, because I don’t want to feel like I have to be a host. I wish I had a sister to come visit like you do– I think my brother will be just a ball of awkwardness!
Post # 5
I think its a great idea to schedule people in. The last thing you want is hoards of people showing up. And as far as FB, I think posting something after the baby is born is ok. Like “**insert name here** and mom are doing great!” Or general info. But how much you are dialated??? Whoa, TMI!!!!
Post # 6
Based on the experience I just had with my brother and SIL’s delivery I will have a no FACEBOOK RULE!!! My brother and SIL posted on Facebook right when they were really about to begin pushing. So here is my family and SIL’s sitting in the waiting room. And in walks a complete stranger. She goes over to the security desks and says she is here to see my SIL. The security officer looks-up the room number and gives it to her! Umm no!!! So I got up and chased her down the hallway. Asked who she was, and she said a friend from years ago and saw on FB that the baby had arrived. I politely told her that she needed to wait in the waiting room until after our families had had a moment with the parents and baby. She got pissed off with me! I told her I’m sorry but I’m not going to allow you to see the baby before the grandparents and me so get in line!
So I think it’s okay to post on FB but give yourself and your families time to enjoy this special moment. Because once the news was out it was a revolving door. My brother and SIL didn’t get to sleep for 2 more days because it was constant visitors.
Post # 7
@vintage2010: Woahh!! How awkward! And your poor brother and SIL must have been completely exhausted 🙁 I think we’ll wait until we’re completely out of the hospital to post anything, and then probably just a pic. Thanks for the advise!
Post # 8
@Ashley_B: Totally TMI! I guess I should have said it was a nightmare instead of a dream 😀 I can totally see her doing it though…*shudder*
Post # 9
Really? Facebook? Come on!!!! Ladies, you are about to give birth and you want to post it on fb?! IMO facebook is abnoxious and you should be spending the time focusing on yourself, what you are about to do and become and this is coming from someone who does enjoy facebook, but that is just too much if you ask me!
Post # 10
While it’s not totally the same, Darling Husband and I already agreed (even though we’re not pregnant yet) that we would only allow immediate family to the hospital to visit. Ie: parents and our sisters. If our grandmothers wanted to come sure, but otherwise everyone can see the baby within the first couple of weeks.
For facebook, I think the “we are happy to announce ____ has arrived and can’t wait for his/her friends to meet her when we’re released from the hospital”. Something like that. A friend of mine just used that approach and it was great. Her hubby politely declined visitors saying that mom was tired and needed sleep and baby was learning to Boyfriend or Best Friend. Fair enough 🙂
Try not to stress about it too much, in terms of creating a schedule … but so far, it looks great!
Post # 11
I personally liked having the majority of the visitors come to the hospital. That way the visits are short and you don’t feel like you need to entertain/host people.
I think your schedule for having family staying looks pretty good. How far away do all of the Grandparents live?
Post # 12
@Carrie2979: Lol, the Facebook thing was a dream I had about my Mother-In-Law sharing too much info.
@ieatunicorns: Grandparents all live 10 hours away. Thanks for the advice!
Post # 13
@CEtoSAHM: Sounds awful to me…. because my EDD (I got two): May 17 and May 21. Well… my parents are coming TODAY (May 19) and I feel guilty as hell.
Ask people to come a little later–it will save you the guilt and stress if you are late.
My aunt had her mom come a full 3 weeks before her 2nd baby was born–just another late baby.
I haven’t told anyone who knows about my fb about my dilation because I have the same kind of nightmares.