(Closed) Spinoff- Porn within a relationship

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How do you feel about porn in a relationship
    I am OK with my SO watching porn : (61 votes)
    24 %
    I am NOT OK with my SO watching porn : (24 votes)
    9 %
    I watch porn myself : (47 votes)
    19 %
    I do NOT watch porn : (18 votes)
    7 %
    We watch porn together : (38 votes)
    15 %
    He does watch porn (and I'm NOT OK with it) : (7 votes)
    3 %
    He does watch porn (and I'm OK with it) : (28 votes)
    11 %
    He does NOT watch porn (but I would be OK with it) : (8 votes)
    3 %
    He does NOT watch porn (and I like it that way) : (22 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1685 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am totally fine with porn, but it has never affected the intimacy in our relationship.  Sometimes I watch with him.  Sometimes he watches it alone.  However, we have sex at a higher frequency, so it’s never been an issue for us.

    Post # 4
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    364 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’m fine with it. We warch porn together, and it always puts us in the right mood. I personally don’t watch porn by myself, because I just don’t get the same thrill out if it when I’m alone. I know that Fi watches porn alone occasionally, but not very often. I don’t see it as my partner lusting after other women. I certainly don’t lust after any of the actors in the porn that I do watch.

    I can see how it could become a problem when one partner is using porn to escape the relationship instead of enhance it, but unless my partner is watching porn because he doesn’t want to have sex with me, then I’m cool with it. 

     

    Post # 5
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    234 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @kris325:  I agree with you. our relationship/marriage is sacred and for us only. Neither of us wants that in our lives. if we are entirely committed to each other and happy with each other, why would there be a need to watch something like that? It seems to me like a toxic thing that leads to thoughts of being with other women, and thoughts lead to actions, actions lead to broken marriages, which i see too much of these days.

    Post # 6
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Answered this many times before.

    To sum it all up:

    I watch it. He watches it. We watch it alone. We watch it together. Our sex life is great. He has much respect for women. We are not addicted to it. We treat it as being a “sex toy”. It is not a big deal.

    Post # 7
    Member
    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m okay if he watches it, though he says he doesn’t do it often because he has an active imagination. I tend to have a higher sex drive than him anyway, so if he wants it, he knows he can come and get it, haha. 

    We’ve watched it together, but we usually just end up laughing and joking about it….then having sex ourselves. 

    I watch sometimes, but really don’t find much porn appealing. It’s far to male-oriented usually. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1074 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t care where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home for dinner. 🙂

     

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @Cady:  +1 said it all! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Cady:  Yep. I also co-sign this.

    Post # 11
    Member
    982 posts
    Busy bee

    @kris325:  If my SO watches porn, he’s not obvious about it. He doesn’t have the Internet, although I know he has some DVDs, but he doesn’t leave them lying around. I’m none the wiser as to when he does watch it. I’m fine with it. If it was affecting our intimacy, if he preferred porn to me, I would have an issue with it.

    Post # 12
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @kris325:  Porn doesn’t bother me.  I know my fiance looks at pictures and watches videos on occasion, and I don’t care.

    I’ve watched porn in the past, but it never really did anything for me.  If anything, I actually found it to be a turn-off.  Because of this, I don’t watch it with him.

    It’s never had a negative effect on our relationship or sex life, and I don’t anticipate that it ever will.  If I enjoyed porn, I’m sure I’d watch it with him and/or on my own … But it’s just “meh” in my opinion.

    Post # 13
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My guy watches porn occassionally but it doesn’t bother me.  He is faithful and comes home to me and the kids every day.  I think it’s quite normal to view porn from time to time.  I’d rather he done that then go out and find the real thing.

     

    I must admit that I watch it from time to time myself. 

    Post # 14
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    2143 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    This topic has been beaten to death on the bee. But I’m 100% okay with porn in our relationship. 

    ETA: I also agree with everything that Cady said!

    Post # 15
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    2269 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @BeachBride2014:  “I am totally fine with porn, but it has never affected the intimacy in our relationship.  Sometimes I watch with him.  Sometimes he watches it alone.  However, we have sex at a higher frequency, so it’s never been an issue for us.

    +1.

    I was honestly going to say the exact same thing, in more-or-less the same words!

    Post # 16
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    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’m ok with it and I know that he does. It does not have any affect on our sex life or our relationship. There are times when we are both too busy or too tired to have sex, but FH still wants to get off, so he watches porn. I’ve watched porn, we’ve watched it together. I don’t have any problems with it at all. 

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