Post # 1
I just saw the “Is it tacky to post your ring on facebook?” thread and for the past couple of days I have been thinking about if posting anything wedding related on facebook is a no-no.
Personally, I don’t ever.
It doesn’t always bother me…but there are times where it’s done poorly. For example, FI’s cousin keeps posting about making sure to get your RSVPs in. We were not invited to the wedding and I’m sure not all of her fb friends were either. I find that inconsiderate.
I also see threads on here with drama re wedding + facebook.
What are your thoughts?
ETA: I said I don’t ever but I did put we were engaged & posted the engagement photos for family. Aside from that nothing else.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
things like RSVPs and stuff like that yes, but i post pics of all the DIY projects and i post about what were doing, his family lives in FL and we are in IA, its a way to help them keep up and feel involved, they can comment on pics i post and its a great way to keep them involved. 🙂
Post # 4
I love seeing things about facebook friends weddings and engagments and babies =0) These are usually people I went to school with or family friends and it is exciting to see what is happening in their lives.
Post # 5
@MrsElopement: I posted on the other thread, too…. lazy Saturday obviously 🙂
Anyways- I do post stuff on my FB. Not really anything specific like RSVP’s and such, but random little ” just found a super sale at Hobby Lobby for centerpieces” or my latest ” 50 Days” and tagged my Fiance since our countdown is now under 50 days! EEEk!
However, I only have friends on FB that I actually communicate with outside of social media OR they live in another state so we keep in touch by stuff like that + emails. It doesn’t bother me when I see other people do it, either. But, I can see where some people would opt out of FB posts about weddings to avoid drama
Post # 6
I voted sometimes.
I think there is a classy (read: minimalist) way to do it. I don’t think a wedding is a top-secret event. If you use FB regularly to post mundane stuff I don’t see why a big event should be different. I don’t think posting about “getting RSVPs in” is a very good idea at all! Or I had a “friend” post a wedding invite via FB Events. THAT was ridiculous and we aren’t FB friends anymore because that is just WEIRD. But I posted my ring pic, posted that we were engaged, would randomly post like, “Had a great day dress shopping with the girls!” Not anything super exclusive, IMO. And not often, either.
Post # 7
@AmeliaBedelia: I think there is a classy (read: minimalist) way to do it.
Post # 8
I voted sometimes and second what @AmeliaBedelia says about good ways to balance these updates.
I also mentioned in the other thread that people don’t use the privacy options on FB as much as they are able. It wouldn’t be hard to create a group of people with whom you’d like to share more wedding updates or less. I could see sharing quite a bit on FB to a group of like my mom, his dad/stepmom, and maybe a close friend or two. Beyond that, any information about it would be very limited, if shared at all.
Post # 9
Hmm….I’m confused as to your poll questions. Yes means facebook + wedding = bad idea or yes means you do post?
Anyway, I did the same as you. I changed our relationship status and posted e-pics, but that has been it. Any wedding related questions on my wall, I;ll answer privately.
Post # 10
@AmeliaBedelia: yeah I am the same way. In the 5 months we’ve been engaged, I’ve probably made two or three wedding-related posts, but they’re always tongue-in-cheek. I’ll definitely never post anything about invites, RSVPs, or anything that specific.
I did post a couple pics of my ring, but they were buried inside an album from a weekend trip that we took right after we got engaged. I didn’t do the “OMG we’re engaged and HERE IS THE RING” thing.
Post # 11
I think it’s acceptable within reason; asking about RSVPs is definitely a no-no! But I know I actually love when I see on my newsfeed that someone I know or used to know has gotten engaged or married or whatever (but maybe I’m just a creeper )
Post # 12
@LibertyBelle: I totally agree! I’ve created all different groups so only certain people have access to what I’m posting.
@Roe: I changed the question. Does that help?
Post # 13
I think the RSVP thing is definitely tacky. I have mentioned a couple of things wedding related, but I don’t go really overboard. I think people would get sick of hearing about it constantly. That’s why we have weddingbee right? 😛
Post # 14
I think that an album of wedding photos and the very rare post is appropriate, but I think too many details and statuses about planning can rub it in the faces of those who aren’t invited.
Post # 15
@MrsElopement: I already know we’re on the same page about this. 🙂
Facebook in general has created a culture of MAJOR oversharing and potentially awkward situations and attention seeking/validation seeking behavior.
I’m grateful that before I got engaged, I heard many of my friends feelings and experiences about it – so I’ve kept everything wedding related off of facebook with the exception of changing my profile pic to one of our engagement pics.
If you post a big picture of your ring finger on facebook, some of your facebook friends are talking about it, and not in a nice way. If you post your wedding website, there are going to be people hinting at or thinking they’re invited. If that doesn’t bother you – more power to ya – but – I’m all set, haha.
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