(Closed) SPINOFF: Posting wedding related things on facebook=bad idea?

posted 6 years ago in Technology
  • poll: Is it a bad idea to post about wedding things on facebook?
    Yes : (49 votes)
    45 %
    Sometimes : (47 votes)
    44 %
    No : (12 votes)
    11 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL

    things like RSVPs and stuff like that yes, but i post pics of all the DIY projects and i post about what were doing, his family lives in FL and we are in IA, its a way to help them keep up and feel involved, they can comment on pics i post and its a great way to keep them involved. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
    13 posts
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I love seeing things about facebook friends weddings and engagments and babies =0) These are usually people I went to school with or family friends and it is exciting to see what is happening in their lives.

    Post # 5
    5220 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @MrsElopement:  I posted on the other thread, too…. lazy Saturday obviously ๐Ÿ™‚

    Anyways- I do post stuff on my FB. Not really anything specific like RSVP’s and such, but random little ” just found a super sale at Hobby Lobby for centerpieces” or my latest ” 50 Days” and tagged my Fiance since our countdown is now under 50 days! EEEk!

    However, I only have friends on FB that I actually communicate with outside of social media OR they live in another state so we keep in touch by stuff like that + emails. It doesn’t bother me when I see other people do it, either. But, I can see where some people would opt out of FB posts about weddings to avoid drama

    Post # 6
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I voted sometimes.

    I think there is a classy (read: minimalist) way to do it. I don’t think a wedding is a top-secret event. If you use FB regularly to post mundane stuff I don’t see why a big event should be different. I don’t think posting about “getting RSVPs in” is a very good idea at all! Or I had a “friend” post a wedding invite via FB Events. THAT was ridiculous and we aren’t FB friends anymore because that is just WEIRD. But I posted my ring pic, posted that we were engaged, would randomly post like, “Had a great day dress shopping with the girls!” Not anything super exclusive, IMO. And not often, either.

    Post # 8
    673 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted sometimes and second what @AmeliaBedelia says about good ways to balance these updates.

    I also mentioned in the other thread that people don’t use the privacy options on FB as much as they are able. It wouldn’t be hard to create a group of people with whom you’d like to share more wedding updates or less. I could see sharing quite a bit on FB to a group of like my mom, his dad/stepmom, and maybe a close friend or two. Beyond that, any information about it would be very limited, if shared at all.

    Post # 9
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hmm….I’m confused as to your poll questions. Yes means facebook + wedding = bad idea or yes means you do post?

    Anyway, I did the same as you. I changed our relationship status and posted e-pics, but that has been it. Any wedding related questions on my wall, I;ll answer privately.


    Post # 10
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @AmeliaBedelia:  yeah I am the same way. In the 5 months we’ve been engaged, I’ve probably made two or three wedding-related posts, but they’re always tongue-in-cheek. I’ll definitely never post anything about invites, RSVPs, or anything that specific.

    I did post a couple pics of my ring, but they were buried inside an album from a weekend trip that we took right after we got engaged. I didn’t do the “OMG we’re engaged and HERE IS THE RING” thing.

    Post # 11
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s acceptable within reason; asking about RSVPs is definitely a no-no!  But I know I actually love when I see on my newsfeed that someone I know or used to know has gotten engaged or married or whatever (but maybe I’m just a creeper Smile)

    Post # 13
    3451 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think the RSVP thing is definitely tacky.  I have mentioned a couple of things wedding related, but I don’t go really overboard.  I think people would get sick of hearing about it constantly.  That’s why we have weddingbee right? ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 14
    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that an album of wedding photos and the very rare post is appropriate, but I think too many details and statuses about planning can rub it in the faces of those who aren’t invited. 

    Post # 15
    2586 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsElopement:  I already know we’re on the same page about this.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Facebook in general has created a culture of MAJOR oversharing and potentially awkward situations and attention seeking/validation seeking behavior.

    I’m grateful that before I got engaged, I heard many of my friends feelings and experiences about it – so I’ve kept everything wedding related off of facebook with the exception of changing my profile pic to one of our engagement pics.

    If you post a big picture of your ring finger on facebook, some of your facebook friends are talking about it, and not in a nice way. If you post your wedding website, there are going to be people hinting at or thinking they’re invited.   If that doesn’t bother you – more power to ya – but – I’m all set, haha.

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