Post # 1
There were some very interesting responses on a now absent thread and I really wanted to hear people’s opinions and experiences with prenuptial agreements. Is there ever a good reason to say no? Is this a deal breaker?
Let’s here it bees
Post # 2
Ugh I hate all these options.
I suggested one, since no matter what when you get married you’re signing a contract. Darling Husband and I talked about what we did and didn’t want to change in the existing state law and from that agreed on our prenup, then we got lawyers and put it in writing.
We came up with our prenup together, based on what we felt was fair. It was not me going to a lawyer and presenting him with something to sign or else.
Post # 3
somathemagical : If you have substantial assets that were aquired before marriage, its a total yup.
However, I’m extremely poor, and my Fiance is extremely poor and we have no assets to speak of other than a small savings account and decently funded 401ks. In my estimation, there was no need to prenup. We will likely aquire most of our assets together.
I think they are most useful for older couples who have had time to aquire houses, build business or are on their second marriage. Really, there is no need for a younger couple to have them unless they somehow won the lottery or started a facebook equivelent.
Post # 4
We talked about it briefly but in the end we decided not to.
I think they are fine as long as they are fair to both parties.
Post # 5
We were broke AF when we got married, so he was welcome to my half of nothing. Still is 😛
Post # 6
We don’t have one, we discussed it and didn’t think it was necessary. However, I think pre-nups can be smart and reasonable. Both parties have lawyers and it can protect both. Because there’s nothing to be offended about, even if you don’t think you’ll get divorced. In that scenario, it’s just paper and won’t do anything because you’ll never get divorced. The most important thing in signing a pre-nup, I think, is communication and trust. And if you can trust each others motives and communicate it well, everything should be ok.
Post # 7
I’m just here to say the title of this thread made me chuckle. So thank you for that!
Post # 8
amanda1988 : lol sorry!! Too wordy? Too many? I love the route you and Darling Husband took!
pussinboots07 : thanks for you input!!
saratiara2 : hehehehe!! I totally hear you on that. Darling Husband is welcome to half of my student loan debt
Post # 9
We had more or less equal assets going in, so never considered one. If we hadn’t though, sure.
Post # 10
somathemagical : Nobody marries believing they might eventually divorce. But it can happen; no one can be certain that it won’t. Divorce proceedings get nasty and brutal pretty quickly in many instances. A prenup is a great way to avoid many unpleasant situations in this scenario. After all, a couple who is divorcing is already dealing with sadness/frustration/anger; why complicate it even more with financial arguments?
Post # 11
thesecondwife : I completely agree!! My situation was similar to the unspoken-post in that father really wanted Darling Husband to sign a prenup with me because I’d be receiving a sizable inheritance. Honestly Darling Husband was a little sad at the thought because it made him think of divorce but readily agreed because he trusts and respects my father. We ultimately didn’t end up with one but I would have signed whatever we needed to in order to have a financial situation we were both happy with.
alikat93 : hehe thanks 😉 I thought it was clever too
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
It never came up in conversation and I really didn’t have anything to lose before marrying anyways.
Post # 13
We talked about it because he makes much more then I do, and stands to inherite his parents money when they pass. I told him he it made him comfortable, I would sign one.
We decided not to do it however.
Post # 14
We had similar enough assets and similar salary and earning potential so prenup was never brought up. He now outearns me by 30-40% on a slightly different career path than before, so I’d definitely call us even now if I were to lose half of what was “mine” coming into the marriage.
Post # 15
Personally I don’t find anything wrong with it as long as as others have said it is fair and mutually agreeable to both parties.
I also agree with claroquesi that it is more prudent to evaluate before the S hits the fan versus after.
I think in my heart that if things were to go sour (or at least like to think) that we’re both mature and wouldn’t be a&&holes to each other if God forbid anything happened between fi and I but the truth is you never really know. Marriage takes work!