(Closed) Spinoff: Problem with who is invited/kids/long

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Where exactly are the kids supposed to be if not at your wedding? I’m not trying to be snarky AT ALL, I am just trying to understand where you think they should be. I understand that obviously you want an adults only private wedding. That is understandable. But since it’s a Destination Wedding, and you invited the parents of young children, I’m sure they may be a little miffed too. It sounds like a yucky situation. I hope it all works out.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You were clear before you ever invited them, that there were no children allowed in the resort. They have chosen to completely ignore not only your wishes, but the rules of the resort.

I would notify the resort that you are having this problem and see if they are able to recommend any competent, professional child care providers who could go to the villa to look after the children. I would pass that info on the the Future Brother-In-Law and spouse.

 I would also ask that the resort deal with these people if they show up with children.

 

@AmeliaBedelia:  As  far as where the children are supposed to go, I suggest that the parents have the responsibility to find childcare for them or take turns going back to the villa to care for them. Since when do people get to bully having things their way even to the extent of extending invitations to someone else’s wedding to their friends?

Bad enough that they ignore the B&G’s desire for a child free wedding- they get to invite other people too?

Post # 6
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@AmeliaBedelia:  I have young children and one on the way. If someone invited me to a their Destination Wedding I wouldn’t automatically assume I got to bring the kids, and to be honest, I would probably get a sitter even if the kids were allowed, and make a littel vaca of it for hubs and I.

@TXbrideFW:  I think you need to have a very direct conversation. 

Adult only locations will find them somewhere else to stay. They will not allow the children to stay there.

Post # 7
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6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@TXbrideFW:  Okay. 🙂 Thank you for clearing that up. I don’t have a good answer for your questions, as I have no idea how resorts or coordinator’s will handle the situation. I will suggest that your Fiance talk to his brother and see if they can have the kid’s tickets refunded and have them make definite plans to leave them at home…or if they have money, if they want to fly FSIL’s parents down to watch the kids where they are staying? Yikes. Well, again, good luck!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@julies1949:  & @mwitter80:  Was just a question for OP, as to the specific situation. Like I said originally, I was just asking what the intended plan was before Future Brother-In-Law screwed it up.

Post # 10
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4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I’m shaking my head at this. Because it’s destination, they’re viewing this first as a family vacation, instead of your wedding. It is a vacation, so I can see why they might want her family to tag along/share the costs of the villa, but NO, the plus 4 aren’t invited to your wedding! 

At an adult-only resort, children won’t be allowed. So if they chose to ignore this, they will miss the wedding. Someone needs to draw the line with them- I don’t think it should be you, needs to be your Fiance or another member of his family. Is a Future Mother-In-Law or Future Father-In-Law around/can they step in to help? Future Brother-In-Law doesn’t control the guest list, you do. You’re being polite, but they aren’t.

Post # 11
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would put my foot down and tell them point blank, that the four additional guesta ARE NOT INVITED. If they still insist on bringing the children to vacation with them, then I suggest that they have the four uninvited guests babysit during the wedding. 

 

On another note: We thought about a having a Jamician wedding and eventhough it is an adults only resort they do allow children & non hotel guests to attend the wedding for an additional fee; however, the children can only attend the ceremony. I know that is not the case at all adult only resorts.

Post # 11
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would put my foot down and tell them point blank, that the four additional guesta ARE NOT INVITED. If they still insist on bringing the children to vacation with them, then I suggest that they have the four uninvited guests babysit during the wedding. 

 

On another note: We thought about a having a Jamician wedding and eventhough it is an adults only resort they do allow children & non hotel guests to attend the wedding for an additional fee; however, the children can only attend the ceremony. 

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