(Closed) SPINOFF: "push presents" – awesome or awful?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Push presents...

    Are never obnoxious! A woman should get/deserves a push present.

    Could be obnoxious if the woman asks for/specifies the gift.

    Are always obnoxious! Why do you need a gift after giving birth?

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  • Post # 32
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I don’t dislike the concept of a woman receiving a gift after having a baby. However, I dislike the term “push present” because it sounds like an entitlement, and it is not sensitive to the fact that many women end up having to have Cesarean sections (either after they have pushed or as a scheduled procedure.)

    Post # 33
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @gingerkitten:  I think the idea is lovely, though I don’t think they are essential. I find the name– “push present”– revolting though! Ugh! Couldn’t someone think of a less weird name for it?!

    Also, I think that if the woman ASKS for it, then that is gauche. One doesn’t ask for a present, then it’s not a present anymore!

     

    Post # 34
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    DH and I already agreed I will be getting a push present 🙂 Most likiely it will be a piece of jewelry to commemorate the birth of our first child. I am excited about getting a keepsake and I wear the jewelry he buys me on a daily basis. It doesn’t happen often so when it does it is super special.

    Post # 35
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @gingerkitten:  I think it’s silly. Next thing you know there will be “seed presents” that the mother gives to the father when she finds out she is pregnant, to reward him from knocking her up. 

    Post # 36
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If the husband or wife surprises the other with a small, sentimetnal gift to mark the birth of their child, that’s sweet.

    I don’t think it should be expected (note I said “surprise” above) or required, extravagant, or called a “push present.” (I just hate that term.)

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee

    I think getting a small piece of jewelry with the child’s birthstone would be nice!  But you shouldn’t ask for it!  It should be a surprise and completely voluntary.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @gingerkitten:  I had never heard of push presents or gender reveal until I came on the Bee.

    I didn’t ask for a push present, but I did ask my husband if, after I have the baby, I can get a ring with the baby’s name and birthstone in it, but I never said HE needs to get it for me or that is was because I popped a baby out. It’s just something I want.

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @Aquaria:  +100. I think they’re always weird and tacky. I don’t get it. I really really don’t. Sorry to those PPs who find it cute, or endearing or charming.. I just.. I can’t understand it.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee

    @gingerkitten:  I think it is nice but not necessary….and not obnoxious.

    I’ve heard more about people having a “baby moon”…..like a vacation before the baby comes. I think that is more cute than a push present, as it is the last mini vacation before two becomes three, three becomes four, etc.

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee

    Team Awesome!

    I think the name is a bit gross but other than that I’m all about them. My primary love language is gifts, I love giving and receiving gifts for even the smallest accomplishments. Giving birth? Major accomplishment in my book, so yeah, I’d like a token of love and appreciation for it.

    My mate knows who he married and who he chose to be the mother of his children. As for people arguing “only if it’s something small, non designer, inexpensive etc” who are you to determine that? You can’t spend your money and someone’s else’s. 

    I just really don’t understand how one woman getting a push present has negative implications for all of womankind? Seriously, if you don’t want a push present, or you think they’re stupid/wasteful/materialistic/awful/greedy/etc…tell your baby daddy not to buy you one. So simple.

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @Atalanta:  This! I HATE the term “push present”!!!! It sounds so crude. But there is nothing wrong with getting the mother of your child a small commemorative gift to celebrate the birth!

     

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee

    @gingerkitten:  I think it’s a nice gesture but only if the father thinks of it on his own and decides he wants to do it.

    I hope it doesn’t ever become an  “expected” thing. What next? I-got-a-promotion present”? “Paid-off-my-debt present”? If any gift is expected* it should be for the baby, it’s their birthday!

    (*Disclaimer: I don’t believe gifts should EVER be expected)

    Post # 45
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @Mimoza:  +1

    I’d never heard of this until the last couple of years. It’s ridiculous.

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    @NicoleLyn1218:  +1 I think a vacation is better than a gift.

    Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    @gingerkitten:  Being an extremely sentimental person, I would love to receive a new charm on my bracelet for each kiddo we have. I wouldn’t consider that bad.  If I started to demand an outrageous push present after months and months of being preggo, I would hope someone would give me a gentle reality check.  lol

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