(Closed) SPINOFF: "push presents" – awesome or awful?

• weddingmaven
• 7 years ago

What about women who adopt a child?  The term “push present” is just abhorrent on so many levels. 

• Atalanta
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

• vorpalette
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

• Treejewel19
• 7 years ago

Another reason for a wonderful gift, why not? It’s not necessary but certainly not obnoxious. I will never understand why some people preoccupy and worry themselves so much about what other people do.

…I have suggested a new specific car I have been eyeing as a potential “push present” later on down the line. *gasp*

• almostmrsj
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2012

I like presents and I like jewelry, so I have long joked with my husband that he is to get me a pair of diamond earrings when we have a baby.  But never would I actually expect that or insist that he buy me that.  And calling it a push present and realizing it’s a thing makes my skin crawl.

• Koko1977
• 7 years ago

Ummm… I would never ask or tell my husband to get me one. But if he did I think it would be sweet. People that brag about this are ridiculous.

• Hyperventilate
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: December 2012

The baby is gift enough.

• MexiPino
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2015

@gingerkitten:  I had never heard of the term until the Bee, but I had heard of men giving their wives jewelry or something to commemorate the birth. I think it’s nice. While a good father is “suffering” through the pregnancy & birth, too, it’s nice to acknowledge that the woman is going through an insane experience that only she can do to provide a child. 

• Olivepepper
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

It is yet another thing to add to the long list of “gimmes”. Not a fan.

• littlemisst08
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: February 2013

I think it’s a nice gesture if it comes from the husband. A friend of mine basically demanded a push present, and described exactly what it should be to her hubby. That was annoying, to say the least!

• KinkyOrange
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I never knew this was a thing before the bee. That said, I think a piece of jewellery or something to mark the occasion might be sweet.

But a “push present” is just obnoxious.

• allyfally
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: April 2014

I think they’re pretty ridiculous.

• SunflowerGarden
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: November 2012

I’ve always wanted some sort of RHR to celebrate a future child. Although it won’t really be a “present” in the traditional sense, because I will be designing it myself after I find out the gender.

I don’t find them obnoxious nor necessary. I don’t really care what other people choose to do with their lives or money if doesn’t affect me.

• MammaPants
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2011

I’m just curious as to how many of you that are disgusted by the idea are actually mothers?

My husband gave me a plain rose gold band identical to my wedding band. It represented adding our daughter to our bond. I wear it every day and think about her every time I see it. 

Let me tell you, after 16 hours of hard labor and cramming an 8lb human out of my vajayjay, his token of appreciation was greatly appreciated. 

• barbie86
• 7 years ago

@gingerkitten:  I’d not heard of the term until the bee, but, most women I know have been given a gift of some sort by their partner after giving birth, and I see nothing wrong with it; I actually think it’s a lovely extra way to mark and remember the occasion, esp if it’s something lasting like jewellery. I love getting jewellery for special occasions, and always remember where and when it was given to me; so, I think it’s nice for something as significant and momentous as a birth.

Demanding a gift though? Tacky IMO. Likewise specifying a gift.

Also to add: whenever someone I know has a baby, I get two gifts: one bigger one for the baby, and something small for the mother, like a bottle of wine/box of chocolates/gift card, so that she has a little treat for herself.