(Closed) SPINOFF: "push presents" – awesome or awful?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Push presents...

    Are never obnoxious! A woman should get/deserves a push present.

    Could be obnoxious if the woman asks for/specifies the gift.

    Are always obnoxious! Why do you need a gift after giving birth?

    Obligatory "Other"

  • Post # 62
    13719 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    What about women who adopt a child?  The term “push present” is just abhorrent on so many levels. 

    Post # 63
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @vorpalette:  lol a vacation just after giving birth good one! Don’t think it’s gonna happen.  How about a nanny instead?

    Post # 64
    11231 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @Atalanta:  Babymoons are done before the baby is born. Last trip before the baby.

    Post # 65
    11163 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Another reason for a wonderful gift, why not? It’s not necessary but certainly not obnoxious. I will never understand why some people preoccupy and worry themselves so much about what other people do.

    …I have suggested a new specific car I have been eyeing as a potential “push present” later on down the line. *gasp*

    Post # 66
    3695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I like presents and I like jewelry, so I have long joked with my husband that he is to get me a pair of diamond earrings when we have a baby.  But never would I actually expect that or insist that he buy me that.  And calling it a push present and realizing it’s a thing makes my skin crawl.

    Post # 67
    220 posts
    Helper bee

    Ummm… I would never ask or tell my husband to get me one. But if he did I think it would be sweet. People that brag about this are ridiculous.

    Post # 68
    9076 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    The baby is gift enough.

    Post # 69
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @gingerkitten:  I had never heard of the term until the Bee, but I had heard of men giving their wives jewelry or something to commemorate the birth. I think it’s nice. While a good father is “suffering” through the pregnancy & birth, too, it’s nice to acknowledge that the woman is going through an insane experience that only she can do to provide a child. 

    Post # 70
    4501 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It is yet another thing to add to the long list of “gimmes”. Not a fan.

    Post # 71
    3764 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think it’s a nice gesture if it comes from the husband. A friend of mine basically demanded a push present, and described exactly what it should be to her hubby. That was annoying, to say the least!

    Post # 72
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I never knew this was a thing before the bee. That said, I think a piece of jewellery or something to mark the occasion might be sweet.

    But a “push present” is just obnoxious.

    Post # 73
    8481 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I think they’re pretty ridiculous.

    Post # 74
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’ve always wanted some sort of RHR to celebrate a future child. Although it won’t really be a “present” in the traditional sense, because I will be designing it myself after I find out the gender.

    I don’t find them obnoxious nor necessary. I don’t really care what other people choose to do with their lives or money if doesn’t affect me.

    Post # 75
    1477 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m just curious as to how many of you that are disgusted by the idea are actually mothers?


    My husband gave me a plain rose gold band identical to my wedding band. It represented adding our daughter to our bond. I wear it every day and think about her every time I see it. 


    Let me tell you, after 16 hours of hard labor and cramming an 8lb human out of my vajayjay, his token of appreciation was greatly appreciated. 

    Post # 76
    6431 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @gingerkitten:  I’d not heard of the term until the bee, but, most women I know have been given a gift of some sort by their partner after giving birth, and I see nothing wrong with it; I actually think it’s a lovely extra way to mark and remember the occasion, esp if it’s something lasting like jewellery. I love getting jewellery for special occasions, and always remember where and when it was given to me; so, I think it’s nice for something as significant and momentous as a birth.

    Demanding a gift though? Tacky IMO. Likewise specifying a gift.

    Also to add: whenever someone I know has a baby, I get two gifts: one bigger one for the baby, and something small for the mother, like a bottle of wine/box of chocolates/gift card, so that she has a little treat for herself.

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