The name “Push Present” is obnoxious…
Whoever dreamed that up was insensitive to others.
These types of presents are not new, they’ve been around for awhile
They gained their first sense of momentum in the 1980s
Back when I got married the first time (circa 1980), and the trend for the 3rd Ring was just becoming popular (interlocking Bridal sets) a matching band on the other side…. the Jewellery folks were advertising to complete the set either for a Milestone Anniversary, OR when you had your first baby.
PHOTO – 1980s Bridal Set (not mine) Showing the ERing & WBand… a Matching 2nd Band would go on the opposite side to mark a Milestone Occasion in the Marriage such as the Birth of the First Child
That was certainly my wish, when My Ex & I first got married. Never happened.
He did surprise me tho at Christmas after the birt of our first Baby with another right that featured that child’s birthstone.
(Lol, altho I do think it had something to do with the fact that when said baby was born he went out and bought his Mother a ring… and I distinctly remember asking… “Wait a minute, what exactly did she do during the birth ?” But then again my Ex was like that… he always was the guy to put HIS Momma / Family first over me. Another reason he’s the Ex)
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Overall I think it is nice to mark the Birth of a Baby with a Gift for the Mother… if it can be afforded (Babies are expensive)
I am sorry, but being a Mom is a lot of work… and that begins from the second you get pregnant. Daddy-O just stands around like a proud peacock for 9 Months… while Mom-2B goes thru a lot of physical and emotional changes.
Sure the Baby is the “reward” at the end of it all… but I still think it is touching / meaningful for the relationship if the guy recognizes the fact that Mom did something incredible.
IMO, in the big scheme of things Moms are under-appreciated. We may have Mother’s Day, but Breakfast in Bed one day a year hardly cuts all the hard work us gals do… there are certainly Guys who are good Dads, but in most cases it is Mom who does all “the heavy liftig” when it comes to the Kids, and makes the biggest sacrifices (like Career advancement). This isn’t recognized enough by the Men in their lives, or their Kids.
Kids don’t seem to get it / appreciate it until the day they actually are in the same boat…
Lol, then you end up with a Mother’s Ring or a Gramma Ring
(Which is probably WHY my Ex thought he needed to get his Mother a present when the first grandchild was born)