(Closed) Spinoff question: Is anyone/does anyone know a SAHH?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Yes I know one. We and their other friends are cool with it, I don’t know about society at large. I don’t know if they (the family in question) really pays a lot of attention to what society thinks. They seem happy enough.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@oneofthesethings:  I do!  Well, he’s a former SAHH.  He started working again when they moved back to the US.  He was a SAHH for three years while they were living abroad, though!  Everyone thought it was really weird, but the couple was all over it, and I say more power to them.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t know any SAHHs. I know guys that joke about being OK with it if they get the opportunity, but they are never seriously considering it.

I also am not sure being a Stay-At-Home Wife is “OK” on average, as it’s often debated around here. SAHM-ing it is a little different and more roundly accepted, IMO.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I don’t personally know any, but I think my Fiance would pass that opportunity up if it ever came to be. He was unemployed for 2 months and it drove him absolutely crazy.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My husband actually told me that he would love to be. He is partially kidding, but my man is a chef in the kitchen so I wouldn’t hate it. He is definitely not the typical male, and while the house wouldn’t be as clean as I would like, and he could NEVER do my laundry, if I was making that kind of cheddar I would love for him to take care of me, and I know he would do a good job 🙂

 

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Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know of one, my cousin’s husband.  They have two children together and he does all the cooking and cleaning.  I know my aunt and uncle don’t really approve of it (like a lot of people from their generation), but amongst the cousins and friends, it seems to be widely accepted.  I agree with MrsWrangler: about Stay-At-Home Wife and SAHH both being debated, but I think really matters is what works for each couple.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Mine will probably be one. :p At least part time, while he works part time to help finance day care. We couldn’t financially be able to give up my CPA salary (nor do I want to stay home) when we have kids, so he’ll most likely be the one staying at home! The only people that have given us shit about it are the older generations. People our age think it’s fine.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

My dad was one. It was great for us as kids. He was a good cook, a great playmate and I grew up knowing how to wire a plug and change a tyre as well as making fairy cakes.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My Fiance stays home.  It rocks!  I come home from work and the house is clean, the laundry is done, the grass is cut, etc.  I do cook when I feel like it, but that’s because I enjoy it.  It’ll be a huge advantage when the baby is born.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@housebee:  I think really matters is what works for each couple.

Agreed! To each her/his own.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This Stay-At-Home Wife and SAHH label is really confusing. I thought we just called these folks “unemployed”?

 

(not talking about the folks that stay home and watch the kids)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

A family friend is, but only because of crappy immigration laws that prohibit him from legally working in the US.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My brother is a SAHH. Well, a part-time one at least. He’s studying at the moment, so he’s got a few days a week at uni (and he often takes my neice to his classes). Plus he’s got a part-time job to supplement their income.

Both of my parents were basically stay-at-home parents. They’re both self-employed – mum owns an amazing open garden and dad has an earth moving business. Mum was home 24/7 gardening, and dad would work flat-out for about 6 months of the year (once it’s too wet, earth moving is tricky) and he would be the house husband and run our farm for the rest of the year. It was, without a doubt, a perfect arrangement. As another poster said, I grew up knowing how to change a tire, wire a plug, fix a tractor, pull a calf, as well as all the things that we learned around the house (e.g. cooking and cleaning).

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@oneofthesethings:  Yep! My two best girlfriends are both stay at home wives and domestic divas. Both, with their husbands, have decided to remain childless, and have decided to have her stay at home full time. 

They both manage their household finances, social lives, appointments, all thlion associated with day to day life. They rise in the mornings with their husbands, prepare breakfasts, lunches, dinners, etc. They both Groupon like mad, take excruciating care over their budgets and coupon madness, and have homes you can eat off the floors. Nicely kept, comfortable houses. They also maintain outdoors/yardwork, snow removal, etc. 

The trade off is this: they live financially comfortably, but not as spend-thrift as some/many double incomed families. Their men work incredibly hard for a living in high profile/high stress jobs, and their primary function is to keep the rest of life as simple, pleasurable, and stress free as possible. They do not have to deal with the daily stresses of holding down full time work, and managing children too. 

These are not lazy women, as some have insinuated in our social circles. They put in just as many hours a day as any of us do, just working in a different way. One was able to care for her dying mother in the last year of her life. Both are on-call taxi service for my kids, and other families, or do Sick Day care for little ones. 

I admire them, and frankly, covet their position in life. They are happily married, and both wives and their spouses often reiterate they simply wouldn’t have it any other way! 

Edited to call myself a dim-wit; I didn’t read the OP closely enough!!! Sorry! I thought you meant stay home wives/no kids, not husbands!!! Please forgive the over-sight and out of place response!!!

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