Post # 1
This is a spin off from another post about housewarming parties.
What are everyone’s thoughts on registering for a housewarming party?
Personally I think it’s extremely rude and presumptuous to assume that people would get you gifts for a house warming. I would be super put off if I saw that someone registered for their house warming party. I always bring a gift but it’s more of a small, symbolic gift, or a gift card to a home store.
One time I attended a housewarming party that had a money tree and a sign that asked people to pin money to the tree for the couple. I thought that was beyond rude and I did not contribute, (although I did bring them a gift).
We just recently had a housewarming party and there was definitely a mix of types of gifts and I was honestly very shocked by how many gifts we received. We got everything from fresh baked desserts to plants to wine, to household items to giftcards in large denominations.
Post # 3
I’m going with rude and presumtuous (to have a registry specifically deemed for that purpose). But, at the same time, I don’t feel that way about an amazon wish list or some other ongoing registry.
Post # 4
I’m happy to bring a bottle of wine or something fun from CB2 to a housewarming, but I’d absolutely be appalled to be invited to a housewarming where the hosts expect gifts to the point where they’d create a registry.
Post # 5
I’d have a problem with a housewarming registry. If someone wants to give you a gift, they certainly can, but registering seems presumptuous.
Post # 6
Seems totally presumptuous to me. Buying a house was my financial decision, why would it be ok to then ask people to give you stuff? Although I suppose we could argue the same about wedding gifts huh… Haha
Post # 7
I voted for the first option. I don’t see any harm with creating a small registry and keeping it quiet. It’s rude to publicize the registry or expect people to buy from it, but I think it’s okay to have one ready in case any close friends or family ask what you want.
Post # 8
We had a BBQ when we first moved into our current place and we did not bill it as a housewarming, though many knew we just moved in. We received many bottles of nice wine, some plants, and even a nice cocktail shaker. We definitely didn’t receive money, but we were surprised by the generosity from some of our friends. I can’t imagine throwing a housewarming and expecting gifts (which a registry would imply). Presumably, these are our good friends anyway, so if there was something we “needed”, they would already know. For example, our friend that gave us the cocktail shaker knew we didn’t have one and thought it would be fun to gift us one.
FWIW, Fiance and I never show up at anything empty-handed. Our hostess gift of choice is usually a nice $20-30 bottle of wine or a nice plant, depending on the occasion.
Post # 9
@lilbluebird: haha – My first thought when I read the OP was “Yeah, but who registers for wine and houseplants?” That’s what I always take, too.
Post # 10
@Meowkers: sounds like we really should’ve had one….
I think I’d feel embarrassed though, honestly. For the same reason I’m not having a wedding shower or engagement party. Not saying anyone else should, I just feel guilty when guests give me gifts for something that’s not a real big deal.
Post # 11
I think it would be kind of rude, but that could just be because I always invite the neighborhood to the housewarming so I can hopefully make some friends in the area.
Post # 12
I’m in the “rude and presumptuous” camp. Around here, housewarming gifts aren’t expected. Sure, a lot of people show up with a small plant or a bottle of wine, but the idea is just to get together, see the new place, and party.
Post # 14
To be honest I am terrible at picking out gifts. I spend way too much time obsessing over it and trying to find the right thing. I am so relieved when people create a registry for any event. Maybe its rude, but its just so helpful!
Post # 15
I would do one just for the discount. I wouldn’t go around telling anyone about it, but if they searched for it, that’s not my problem.
Post # 16
People seriously go overboard with how much they need. I have housewarmings before, never asked for gifts, never expected them. I never brought a gift, just food or wine.