(Closed) Spinoff: Responses to rude things people say to you about getting married

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

@GreenGables:  LOL, i love this. wish i had something witty to say when i got my own rude comments.  But i was probably better off not smart mouthing my boss.  Hmmm, though what COULD i have said when she told me “my condolences on your getting married”.  ?  i still don;t know!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@GreenGables:  “you know 85% of statistics are made up, right?”

Lol, I don’t know if that’s true, I made it up.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

one of the comments on the other thread was:  “marriage is just a piece of paper”. so i suppose a reply could have been: “so is your birth certificate”.  or better yet, if they are pursuing higher education, “you mean like your bachelors/masters/phd degree?”

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

lol Those responses are funny! I’m glad that I didn’t get any of those comments when I was engaged. I have gotten some indirect comments about everyone being pregnant, don’t drink the water. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just posted on the other thread. Usually our answer to those who ask us why did you wait so long, why didn’t you do it before, blah blah blah… and this coming from ppl that are seperated and divorced. Our answer, “we learned from your mistakes and made it work” hihi

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

@couawilou: LOL, i love that “we learned from your mistakes!”

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@dynamic_duo: lol my Fiance is the one who actually came up with it. He’s the one been bugged all the time.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@dynamic_duo: “you mean like your bachelors/masters/phd degree?”

Well, I would never say either of these things out loud, but I worked/am working pretty hard for those degrees, and all I needed to get married was $100 and a warm body of the opposite gender, so… yeah. 🙂

In general, the best response to rude assholes is just to laugh heartily at them. Throw in a head pat and a “You’re so cute!” if you’re feeling a bit byzantine. 

This has several potential outcomes, all delightful:

1. They think you’re laughing at their HI-larious joke. This is good for workplaces, as conflict is avoided and the delicate genial/passive-aggressive status quo we all work so hard to cultivate is maintained.

2. Like #1, but with a small but growing suspicion that you are actually laughing at them. This is my favorite because I believe that it actually instructs the asshole as well as entertains me.

3. Unlike # 1 and 2, they are absolutely sure that you are laughing AT them. Fortunately, you have plausible deniability, because their original rude assholery was probably (at least nominally) disguised as a joke, so conveniently you chose to go with the flow and (at least nominally) disguise your utter delight at their misanthropy as laughter at said hypothetical joke.

4. Utter confusion. Anarchy in the UK. Everybody wins.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@Beluga: ya, i probably should have clarified that i am also working for all said degrees (well i working on the phd now), and that line might only work between two graduate students.  not from someone who does not have a degree, because they might come off as petty.  Also, it was meant to demonstrate the ridiculousness of the comment “marriage is only a piece of paper”.  Obviously we all know marriage is more than a piece of paper, just like we all know bachelors/masters/phd degrees are more than a piece of paper!   

unless of course, you get married on a post-it like Meredith and Derek   😉

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