Post # 1
So this is a spinoff from a conversation on another board that genuinely got me curious. I have been to a few weddings that were standing only or part seated part standing (where I was one of the ones standing.) IMO it can be really intimate and nice when the ceremony is kept short and there is someone to direct the flow of traffic.
In the first wedding, I didn’t know there was going to be a wedding until we arrived, and everyone was just sort of asked to gather around a certain area of a friend’s back yard where the officiant and groom-to-be were standing, although there was no altar. The bride had a cute little processional in and some vows were quickly exchanged. Her parents had tables set up and food catered as well as a bar so we were able to dive right into that and it was fun.
In the second, a coworker had a backyard wedding where there was only enough seating for the immediate families (mostly older people) and their siblings stood up as a small bridal party. There was the traditional arch and sound system music. There was a bride and a groom side, with everyone else just kind of standing behind in a semi-circle. This was a good bit longer and more “traditional” but we didn’t mind, it was just nice to witness. The family had a caterer also, on a much larger scale but we didn’t know too many people and didn’t feel very welcomed so we left early.
The third was my older brother’s second wedding this past summer. They got married on the beach, which they actually paid a pretty penny for despite the fact that there didn’t seem to be much included. It was an awesome wedding though! The coordinator had everyone stand in two lines creating an aisle, leaving space at the front for the immediate family to stand closer to the officiant/ arch. The families and bride processed in to a solo violinist, and after the bride was given away everyone was directed to crowd in to a semi-circle shape close to witness the rest of the ceremony. Afterwards the couple didn’t process back down the aisle since they were taking pictures on the beach, so everyone just kind of crowded in for well wishes and hugs.
How many Bees are having/considering a short ceremony with no seating? How do you plan on making this as easy and enjoyable as possible? I’d also like to hear from those who aren’t doing it, but have seen it done well. What in your opinion made it work?
Post # 3
Just to be clear, I’m referring to ceremonies with no seating. Just wanted to point out that I wouldn’t expect my guests to stand for the whole reception, too!
Post # 4
@sablemuse: We have no seating! We are getting married on a pier, and the guests will stand on that! Here’s the pier. We will be getting married at the end of the pier and the guests will stand around. It shouldn’t last any more than 20 or so minutes.
Post # 5
@sablemuse: I’ll play, since I replied in your original mention! haha.
My stand up wedding will be NO LONGER than 15 min, probably closer to 10 minutes. It’s held in my parents backyard, weather pending. The guests will gather around a bit of a stage that’s built infront of my parent’s shed (which has cute little barn doors).
Everyone will enter the backyard and grab a bottle of beer or glass of champagne to have for the ceremony, and will toast when we kiss! Then we sign the licence, our dads give a 2 minute maximum speech, and we say a thank you speech. Everyone will mill around in the backyard for another half hour or so with drinks and live entertainment, then head over to a fire hall around the corner for dinner, drinks, dancing, and NO speeches! haha.
That is, as long as it doesn’t rain. Which it says it’s going to right now. In that case, we’re getting married in a fire hall beside a buffet table, and everyone will be sitting. BOO!
Post # 6
Please make sure you have some seats available for those of us whose knees act up! Maybe have them available upon request or something.
Post # 7
The plan is that it will be our parents and siblings and we will to do it in the park and be done under 15 minutes. Short and sweet and wonderful.
Post # 8
This only works if your ceremony is very short (like 15 minutes max), and you actually start on time. Keep in mind that most people arrive to weddings a few minutes early, so will be spending more time on their feet than just the length of the ceremony.
Post # 9
@sablemuse: me!…we are having a garden ceremony at our home…was going to just invite 30 immediate family type thing..then later have a dance at a local hall for everyone else…but as we are very casual and really not too worried about doing the ‘expected’ thing…we are telling everyone to show up at our place (if they want) and then all go over to the hall together type thing…there will be no seating at all…we are deffo not doing the tradtional route though so nobody will be surprise I think…we are also doing our photos before the ceremony so as we can join our guests right away at the hall where there will be a light buffet and dancing.
Post # 10
We are having a standing ceremony. 15 minutes max and guests will have already had about 20 minutes to mingle, grab a cocktail and taste some of the passed appetizers. FH, officiant, and I will stand on a tiny hill in the middle of a rooftop garden with our guests gathered around.Then we’ll have more cocktail and apps for another 30 minutes or so before heading inside for dinner!
ETA: There are benches for guests to sit on, but a very limited number!
Post # 11
I was going to go with no seating because we only have 8 guests, but I ended up renting 8 folding chairs for the occasion. What changed my mind? I went to a demonstration at work that was standing-only and I got shifty and restless after like 5 minutes, lol.
Post # 12
yes, we have a couple of benches as well for some of the older guests, and there are a couple extra chairs we could bring out if people cant handle it – but those will be first come first serve! We have a pretty perky crowd though, anyways so I’m not too worried~!
Post # 13
I think as long as the ceremony is short(15-20 minutes) and there is someone to direct the flow of traffic, standing ceremonies work nicely. Having a few chairs for those who are unable to stand is also a good idea.
Post # 15
Both of our ceremonies will be standing- we’re doing the legal, official “secret” ceremony early in the day with about 25 people (very close friends and immediate family.) It is a “pop-up” wedding as we’re describing it, where we’re basically just going to show up to a place in the city that is significant to us and do it! We will do our ring-warming and read our vows at this ceremony, and our officiant will sign the paperwork then. I imagine it to take 20mins or so.
Later in the evening at our “advertised” wedding (only those involved with the first ceremony know about its existance,) we will do a quick redo of our previous one including the vows but no readings and no ring warming ceremony. This will probably take about 5-8 minutes and will be viewed by 110 people at our cocktail party, standing only. For all intents and purposes, that is our wedding and invitations are only going out for that portion. Everyone asked to the first ceremony will be asked indivudually. We are also making it clear on our website that there will be limited seating so people don’t show up in uncomfortable shoes! We have seating at the venue for probably 50people at a time, so we’re hoping everyone moves around and we will reserve some seating for the “family of the couple” (meaning our older relatives.)
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I say just be wary of older members, people who cant stand to long and any pregnant people especially if its hot outside – FI best man finds it difficult to stand for a long time, his grandma is very frail and its going to be super hot, i dont think itd work well for me