(Closed) Spinoff: Thank-you cards

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How do you plan to thank your guests and/or gift-givers?

    I will write each person a personal thank-you note.

    I will send out a thank-you card but I will not write a personal message on it.

    I will announce a "thank you" to our guests at our shower or reception.

    I do not plan to thank my guests.

    None of the above. (explain)

  • Post # 3
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I will handwrite all of my thank yous.

    Post # 4
    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My Thank You Notes were created by Shutterfly w/ some of my pro pics.  I also handwrote each Thank You.

    Post # 5
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I gave everyone a thank you card who gave me a gift, threw me a shower, or helped me out in the planning stages.  I wrote each card by hand with personal messages.  Honestly, I can’t imagine doing it any other way.  I managed to get all the thank yous done by 2 weeks after each respective event (I had 2 showers, plus the wedding).

    I have been thanked for my gift in a “mass” sort of way at the wedding before and wasn’t too impressed.  I will say that we did get a thank you card (with a non-personal message) one year later, but I never got one for her shower, which was annoying (especially after travelling 3+ hours to get there).  There were special circumstances with this particular wedding, but still…it was rude.

    Post # 6
    4044 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I really like getting handwritte notes, but I will alsp have a fairly small weddng (60 guests or so) so it won’t be too hard.

    Post # 7
    1796 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We handwrote thank you to notes to everyone. H and I split up the work, so it really wasn’t as time consuming as I thought. It’s a daunting task, but once you get started, it’s really easy.

    Post # 8
    2892 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m doing personal thank yous. Then again, we only have 45 ppl coming so it shouldn’t take too long. 🙂

    Post # 9
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I will be handwriting all of my thank yous.

    Post # 10
    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We’ll be sending out thank you post cards with a photo of us on the front & personalized message on the back (though it’s going to be printed cause both our handwriting is terrible!!).

    Post # 11
    2724 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Any gift or money we have received I have sent out a personal thank you note. I plan to continue doing so!

    The reason people become annoyed about not receiving a thank you is because many times guests put a lot of time and money into attending not only the wedding but all of the other events or send a nice gift. The least the couple could do is send a card that says “Thanks so much for attending! We love the (insert gift here)!” Doesn’t have to be a long drawn out card but acknowledgement is nice. 

    Post # 12
    1692 posts
    Bumble bee

    I hand-write thank-you notes to the giver when I receive a gift, to my hostess the following day after I have enjoyed her hospitality. I do not send thank-you notes to my guests after they have received my hospitality. I am realistic enough not to expect written thanks from them. I get, and enjoy, the unexpected written thanks I receive regardless of whether they are written by hand, email, or facebook private message. I do not send thank-you notes for cards, as cards are technically just notes with pretty pictures on them and that could launch a tight loop with no exit exception. I do respond to all notes (except pro forma obligatory thank-you notes.) There isn’t really a problem with a self-perpetuating loop in the sense of simple responses. That’s what social correspondence is. It doesn’t have the rigid form and timelines that thank-you notes have. And again, I don’t particularly fret whether people choose to use electronic or typewritten notes for their correspondence. I love writing with a pen on paper, but I’m flexible.

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