- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Another thread has started me thinking and I didn’t want to comment too heavliy on the posts there as not to threadjack.
Clearly, we have some strongly-held values about working/not working etc. I’ll admit I’m not able to relate to *wanting* to be a Stay-At-Home Wife (although I do know that sometimes it’s practicial/necessity/etc) and I’m interesting in hearing what others think *without judgement and without making it personal*.
Also, this is NOT about SAHMs and let’s agree from the start that SAHMs and SAHWs are two completely seperate things.
I suppose that my main views are this (if I can distill it):
– being a Stay-At-Home Wife is a luxury or privilige if by choice, although other circumstances can exist
– being a Stay-At-Home Wife is consistent with feminisim (the right to make choices that work for them)
– being a Stay-At-Home Wife is not a job
– being a Stay-At-Home Wife can be very fulfilling, both for the woman and her family unit
– there are lots of aspects of self value that don’t/shouldn’t come from being employed
– being a Stay-At-Home Wife involves some financial risk
By the by, while it’s an attractive choice in many respects, I don’t think it would be something I would choose….but then again I’m the primary breadwinner in my family and I will likely never have the choice so that could be a bias.