(Closed) SPINOFF: things no-one tells you about having an interfaith marriage

posted 8 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@SpecialSundae:  the issue is a catholic cemetery here I think. I know of a few where they are so full that you do have to be catholic to be buried there

That said my Fiance is Southern Baptist preacher’s kid… I’m Catholic. I also went to MVNU for a year. Yes there are sheltered young adults who don’t reconize that Catholics are not only Christians but the original church. the wiser more accepting protestants far outweigh this

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@ProfessorGirl:  On the flip side, I have also met Catholics who didn’t recognize protestants as being christian, or even seemed to realize there was a church besides The Church. Sigh! More religious education for everyone would be great!

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

that while you and your DH may have your own ideas mapped out (except the burial thing, forgot about that!!) and one of you has become the more ‘dominant’ religious person….don’t count on the families being as accepting. My family is totally fine with it….but I am definitely the odd duck out in DH’s family as the only non-Catholic. Makes going to church with them fun!

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This hadn’t even come up with us.  He’s Catholic and I’m Baptist but neither of us attend church and we’re both not very religious.  I have no problem making the switch and being Catholic (his mom did that after she married his dad).  Then we’d all be the same but he told me I don’t have to switch over.  I didn’t think it’d be an issue since we’re both Christians O_o…but apparently it is….hmmm who knew.  Something new to discuss with him now 

Post # 21
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Newbee

You might get weird looks when you go to the Atheism section of the bookstore to learn more about how he thinks.

When you go ask your close friend for advice and you mention that he is Atheist and you are Christian, your friend might start trying to convince you to leave him, and you might decide they aren’t really your friend anymore…

When you explain the difference to your mother, she might ask “Is this just a phase he’s going through? Do you think he’ll grow out of it in a few years?”

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

There will be a religious person, somewhere in one or both of your families, that is going to make your life terribly difficult.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My grandmaw was Catholic and my paw paw was Baptist.  Back when they got married(1950) they actually had a very difficult time finding someone to marry then(back then it was a huge taboo for Catholics and Baptists to marry one another).  Their children were raised Catholic but every Sunday…he went to his church and she went to mass.  Both very active in their respective churches and both deeply loved the Lord. And they were married almost 60 years before my paw paw passed away. 

 

They are now buried side by side in a Methodist graveyard(small town…most everyone buried there). 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m an atheist and my fiance is Catholic – he’s pretty relaxed about it all, so the interfaith shouldn’t be too big an issue for us, but his family are a lot stricter, so it’ll be interesting to see how we go. I’m honestly not too fussed about the being buried in a certain spot (though that may change). Part of the beauty of being an atheist is not caring what happens after you die Smile

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@Moomin:  Mormon’s don’t consider themselves Christians, even though they go to church and follow Jesus.  What’s the difference?  lol

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Moomin:  Yeah, that makes more sense. I know a few people that are of the opinion that if they’re not buried in ‘their’ cemetary, their position in the afterlife is affected somehow. Personally, if I end up getting buried, I’d rather be with my spouse, but if it’s not gonna happen, chances are it won’t change the end result!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@AllTheGoodUsernamesAreTaken:  I’m sorry but you are sorely mistaken. Mormons are devout Christians, and all of them will tell you so (including me).

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

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@SpecialSundae:  Majority rules?  I honestly don’t know why this would happen in the US where church and state are supposed to be seperate.  At the same time though a lot of states haven’t really caught up with the times on that type of thing so it wouldn’t surprise me if there’s leftover laws about the church being able to intervene and I know for sure families can contest wills.  Don’t know how they figure out who “wins” though.

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@SuperDuperBrit:  I could be wrong, but I don’t think it’s as simple as just converting. I’ve never been Catholic, so I don’t know the in’s and out’s of it, but I think I heard somewhere that it’s a pretty complicated and lengthy process.  Someone please correct me if I’m wrong though.

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@MissTzatziki:  lol I’ve seen this happen with soooo many of my friends parents when their children date non religious people or people from different religions.

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