Post # 1
For the Bees who took their husband’s last name, how are you holding up? I’m only asking because as much as I love my husband and as excited as I was to take his name I am finding it more difficult than I expected to change my identity. His last name is written all over at my work, my initial’s changed (I don’t like them) and I find myself reverting to writing my maiden name when I’m not consciously thinking about writing his (err my new ) last name.
I wonder how long it will take me to get over this? At first I was excited, but now two months later I feel like I lost a part of me, kind of…
Post # 3
I sometimes write my old last name, But I love my husband and Im glad I took his name. Getting everything changed over to the new name was easy, Now at work its hard, a lot of people still use my old name. I sometimes get sad when Im on facebook and everyone else name is my old last name, and I feel weird not being apart of that anymore. But Its also only been 2 months for me. It will get better.
Post # 4
It took me a couple weeks and every now and then Ill catch myself writing my maiden name but I was SOOO ready to ditch my maiden name!
Post # 5
I was pretty sad at first, so I just slowed down. You don’t have to rush the process, let yourself get used to it and say goodbye to your old name bit by bit.
Right now I just changed it on social media and at work, next will be ID cards and credit cards but I’m not pushing it. After all it’s final so might as well enjoy my own name a little bit more.
Post # 6
I changed my SS card a little over a month ago and my drivers licence last week. After I walked out of the social security building I cried in my car for a bit when I changed my drivers licence I didn’t cry so it must be getting somewhat better. I’m in the process of getting it changed at work. I still don’t like being called Mrs. hislast and figure with time I’ll probably stop caring as much. I don’t feel like it is my name yet .
Post # 7
I don’t mind that my name is changed, but it’s difficult for me to remember that my name is different now, lol. I don’t think my new last name flows as well with my first name as my old last name did. I do somewhat miss my old last name, but I think it will get better. I think it will just take time.
I still haven’t changed my name on my driver’s license, my insurance, or at the bank. The only thing I’ve changed is my social security card. I’m just putting it off because I hate the DMV with a passion, but I really do need to just get it over with.
Post # 8
I changed everything within two weeks; SS, ID, at work, on facebook etc. So I’ve had like a month and a half to get used to it. I guess maybe it’s going to take a long time. I almost kind of feel stupid when I say it to people, like it’s not really my name. I dunno.
Post # 9
@plzhalp: Social Security allowed me to keep my middle and maiden name. So legally I have 4 names hahaha.
It’s going great. In the beginning I would still write my maiden name and get confuses me someone called me Mrs. Sailor but now I love having my beloved’s name!
Post # 10
I still get confused occasionally, especially at work. It’s also confusing when I hear someone talking about me with my new last name when I’m not expecting it. I still think, “Oh, that’s funny, someone has the same first name as me and last name as my husband!” Then it clicks. It’s also annoying when I go see a doctor I haven’t seen in a while, and I can’t remember what name they have in their systems.
I have no regrets or sadness about it, though. My name is so much easier to spell and pronounce, and it’s at the beginning of the alphabet instead of the end. It feels really natural most of the time. I love being Mrs. Ourlastname. I had to write my maiden name by hand the other day, and it felt weird.
I still haven’t finished changing over all the legal documents, though. I should get on that.
Post # 11
I’m getting used to writing it, but hearing myself called Mrs. HisLastName is still super weird! I don’t dislike it, but I am just not used to it yet. And I always start to say my maiden name to customer service reps on the phone still lol.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Since my maiden name is now my middle name, it’s been okay. I still see it on FB and other e-mail accounts, and if I start to sign something with my “old” name, it still works.
I just started a new job, so that’s helped- all of my new work colleagues are going to know me only by my married name.
It is kind of sad, in a way, but I’m glad I did it. Plus, I never liked my maiden middle name, so it was a good “trade” 😉
Post # 13
@rebwana: I was thinking about keeping my maiden name as my middle name, but my middle name is my mom and grandma’s name, so I felt bad dropping it! Also I have no real attachement to my maiden name i.e. my dad is not in the picture.
Post # 14
I feel ya. We’ve been legally married for a little over a year now and I haven’t officially taken his last name yet. I think this is mostly due to laziness. lol. I’ll get to it, someday.
He’s a teacher, so when we run into his students…they always call me “mrs. (last name)” and I can’t get used to it. Like, “oh his mom’s here too?” lol
Post # 15
I am still changing it in different cards and so fourth. I still sign my maiden name at times. I forget.
Post # 16
When we got married almost 2 years ago I’d accidentally write my maiden name ALL the time, but when I was signing things it wasn’t a big deal because I have horrid handwriting and my name didn’t change very much. It went from a “McC” name to a “MacK” name, lol. So I just got lucky. You’ll get the hang of it after awhile! Now my maiden name feels so foreign to me…