(Closed) Spinoff thread – do you find your exes appealing?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you find your exes attractive and would you do anything with them if you wouldn't get caught
    Hell yes, some of them are really hot : (20 votes)
    6 %
    I would rather jump off a bridge or push him off : (231 votes)
    75 %
    I would consider it and think about it sometimes : (34 votes)
    11 %
    Other : (25 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 77
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @nycsa:  My exes are exes and we broke up for a reason so I prefer to leave them in the past. My life is forward moving and I refuse to cause any strife in my relationship by possible drama with people who dont have my best interests at heart.

    Post # 78
    8575 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Most of my exes I find seriously gross. Either because we dated when we were young, and they just never grew up, or because they are just plain hideous to me now.

    There are 2 of my exes that aren’t APPEALING to me, because I’ve already been there, but they are decent guys. Just because things didn’t work between us doesn’t mean they are awful, and I hope they find women who make them happier than I could!

    Post # 79
    8440 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @nycsa:  Nope, once I’ve broken it off with someone, I’m over it.  Plus all of my break-ups have been clean, no break-up sex/getting back together.

    Post # 80
    1379 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @nycsa:  That’s very true!

    My S/O is a very decisive guy so I don’t worry about his exs. I do get a little nervous about him meeting someone brand-new (who might seem “perfect” in ways his exs don’t) though. 

    Post # 81
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Not. at. all.

    Post # 82
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I voted “other”.  Although I did think and still do find both my exes physically attractive (especially my first boyfriend) but I would never consider hooking up with either of them.  It was over for a reason.  Fidelity plays a huge part in my relationship with my SO and I wouldn’t treat him in a way that I wouldn’t want to be treated..

    Post # 83
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    All of my exes are quite attractive objectively speaking, but honestly, they have no appeal to me. Just the thought of it kind of makes me sick, in fact.

    Post # 84
    1410 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Even if I was 100% positive that I wouldn’t get caught, I could never cheat on my Fiance, because I would feel like such a traitor, the guilt would eat me up. And the only way I could be 100% sure I wouldn’t get caught would be if I was magically incapable of telling him, because I can’t keep secrets from him. I like to share everything with him.

    I still consider some of my exes to be physically attractive, but the longer I’ve been with Fiance, the more repulsed I am by the idea of being touched intimately by any other man. I’ve always been very sensitive to touch, and ifI ended up on top of a bridge with an ex and he tried something, I’d push him off if I had to. Not sure if I’d jump off, but I think Fiance would prefer me to choose life if it was sleep with an ex or die.

    Post # 86
    3060 posts
    Sugar bee

    bleh i actually saw one last night.

    The one that phone and cyber stalked me for a year after he cheated on me. He was in a parked car and saw him mouth the word “wow” before turning away hahah

    he was with a girl i think so I was just happy he didnt try to talk to me! but no appeal at all. bleh

    Post # 87
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    Men and women tend to be different in this regard. We know that women still initiate the majority of divorces – so it wouldn’t surprise me if women ALSO initiate the majority of breakups. He may not see anything wrong with the relationship or his girlfriend – while she’s been seething with hatred and annoyance for him for months. It’s not surprising, then, that so many women in this thread would vote, “I’d rather push him off a bridge.”

    That DOESN’T mean their male counterparts feel the same way about their exes. In my experiences, men do seem to have a harder time letting go of their exes than the other way around (though, certainly, both sexes err in that regard).

    I no longer find my ex appealing. It was a bad relationship and he was a crappy person. Very selfish and childish (granted, we broke up when we were 20). Last I heard, several years later, he’s still the same sort of person. Living in his mommy’s basement, been going to college on and off for about 10 years (flunking out or withdrawing the last 3 years), not working, dating girls who are getting progressively younger and younger (some even younger than WE were when we started dating..yuck).

    He was a manipulative crybaby. Good riddance. And in retrospect, really not that attractive. He was tall and quite thin, so I think that put him into the “attractive” category for many. When were in college, I remember many girls coming up to us and saying, “You’re such a nice looking couple!”

    I totally believe this was actually code for, “It’s nice that a normal-looking, tall, thin guy would go out with a fat ogre like you. It gives me hope.” But hey, whatever.


    Post # 88
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t have any exs. Fiance was my first bf at 16 and we’ve been together ever since. 

    Post # 89
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @nycsa:  There are a few exes that I find attractive in some capacity – physically or mentally, but I’d never cheat on FH with them. The poll question is phrased incredibly unfairly, it’s a big leap to find some component of a person you were once in love with attractive and to betray your Fiance by cheating. 


    Post # 91
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    EWWW Hell no!!! I have never stayed in contact with my ex, he’s an ex for a reason and to be honest, I dont know what I was thinking dating him to begin with… I just put it down to being very young and stupid.  

    There is only one man who can make me go gaga and weak at the knees and that is my gorgeous other half…. I love him to bits.  


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