Post # 46
sharkey38 : Yep ! You’d be surprised what stipulations get added in there, we have several that we’re currently having removed, that being one of them. Trust me, I cringe about how stupid it all is but… such is life when a child is very young when the parents split and mom does everything in her power to exercise control over 2 households. The courts, where we are especially, favor the woman VERY heavily, even if it is kind of bogus.
Luckily, that will be an easy one to throw out. She doesn’t really show any signs of being too upset to remove that clause. Now custody rearrangements and other more “sticky” issues is the hill she is going to die on.
Post # 47
Yes I am a step mum and I have been after support for some time.
I have been stepmum for 3 years and we literally are picture perfect, we have bonded and become a family like I would have only dreamed off we really have. My role is nothing like I ever knew, or will ever know, they accept this so well they know I am a parent figure but would NEVER replace their mum, it’s dad who gets final say but my God do they respect me. They brought me to parents evenings from the early days and we have never been anything else other than a family.
I am insanely grateful fpr their open mindedness and my Fiance ‘s ability to involve me…
BUT…it’s so hard haha I am a dominant part of the family but on occasion such an outsider, my own insecurities get me down. I know they all have a bond that I am not in on and that I need to take a step back at times despite being able to take steps forward on occasion. I want to be so respectful of the children, my Fiance and the children’s mum and ultimately be the best step mum ever but my God it’s hard