(Closed) Spinoff type thing.. What if no one wants to come to your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
2750 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s exactly why we did a destination wedding.  If no one shows up, it will be an awesome 10 day honeymoon.  =)

Post # 6
927 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That sucks you feel that way 🙁 maybe you should find a different venue so you’re not stressed about the minimum? I’m sure there are lots of people who would live to come to your wedding, 150 is a lot of guests (in my opinion).

Post # 8
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m sorry you’re going through that. I think it’s best to only invite people you are close to and you think would appreciate being there. It’s better to not invite people who will bring a negative energy to the wedding. Even if this narrows down your list, there’s nothing wrong with a small wedding. It gives you a more intimate setting where you can spend more one on one time with the people who care about you most. 

Post # 10
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, this is my major wedding fear. Mos of my friends are in the states now  but since I cant throw a wedding there, I have to invite those who I know here, in the country Im residing in now. which sucks! I dont kno to many people here– and my parents want a big weddig but dont wanna invite both thier families- its been something that stresses me out a lot because I feel like theres no need to spend so mch money on a wedding when I can havee a super small intimate party instead- but my mom wants a wedding.. I hope things work out though,.

Post # 11
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We ended up having a small intimate wedding with about 30 guests out of 100 invited.  You just make the best of the people you get and it all works out.

Post # 12
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I worried about this a little because we don’t generally have a ton of friends. Like we have people we like and will ocassionally spend time with, but not really anyone that we must must have at our wedding. After making our guest list, we ended up having a lot more people than I thought we would and I’m pretty happy with the number. We’re expecting to have around 90 total.

Post # 13
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My and my SO are homebodies with very, very small close families. Because of this we have discussed having a very small wedding of about 30 people. He is giving me free reign to do what I’d like (this is his second marriage and as long as it is small, he doesn’t care much about the details). I am thinking we will do a small outdoor ceremony at a local park and then rent out a small restaurant in our area afterwards for a nice dinner. I’m struggling with the idea of no dancing or the typical ‘party’, but I feel that I would rather have an intimate gathering of 30 than fight to get 100 or even 150 to come! I empathize with you completely in filling out the guest list, but maybe it is better to go small instead.

Post # 15
2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

this is happening to me and i’m kinda ticked off about it. we chose to do a destination wedding and didn’t thing anyone would want to come. then my family started complaining that they really wanted to come… so we decided to go with the larger (more expensive) package so that i could invite more people… and now people are saying that they can’t come and they don’t want to spend the money. 

they should have thought about that BEFORE making US spend the extra money to upgrade our package to accomodate them!

Post # 16
9 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

i’m really bummed that this is happening to me too, but it’s kind of relieving to know i’m not the only bride out there pulling my hair out over this sort of thing.

we sent out save the dates a year ago and everyone was so psyched and said they would come…and now that we’ve sent the invitations out our guests are giving all sorts of negative feedback about the location…because we decided to have it on the west coast when our families are on the east coast.

my Maid/Matron of Honor was saying the other day: you have to decide whether the location or your guests are more important. but I really don’t think it’s as simple as that…for us, we tried our best to work it out so that costs and everything would be equal and fair.we tried to be 50:50 and it got us nowhere.

i mean, you can only go so far to please everyone and from there it’s kind of out of your hands whether they continue to gripe. we realized this: we would be much happier with a few guests who were genuinely happy to be at our wedding rather than those who felt it was a huge burden on them.

for the people who miss out on your wedding…it’s really their loss. don’t stress too much about it because having unhappy people there will only make you unhappy.

your happiness is the most important thing on your wedding day.

thanks for posting this and helping me to clear my head too 🙂

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